Picky people who wound up old and alone (date, wife, man)

[At Arms Length]

I know about three older (50+) single guys in just my small town. Never been married, never seen or heard of them with a girlfriend. I don't know if they were picky or not. One is pretty cool. One is kind of sad, looks defeated all the time. One is creepy in a too-friendly, too-nice, try-too-hard way. I fear that fate.

[JerZ]

No.

[JerZ]

Originally Posted by ThisTown123

I'm glad this was posted.

When I see posts like this I always throw up the author of "The case of settling for MR. Good Enough!"

https://youtu.be/z0wxSmrs5fs

Hmm. I'm throwing up, too.

[PriscillaVanilla]

Originally Posted by ThisTown123

I'm glad this was posted.

When I see posts like this I always throw up the author of "The case of settling for MR. Good Enough!"

It's a four star book on amazon. Not bad.

[Chowhound]

I know of a coworker of mine that will most likely be in the same boat at some point. His pickiness will cost him in the long run

[TabulaRasa]

Originally Posted by PriscillaVanilla

Ever know anyone who was too picky and then woke up one day and realized they were old and alone? I'm prepared for an onslaught of defensive replies here, just so everyone knows.

None come to mind. For the most part, people who want to pair off do end up eventually revising their standards if it looks as though they are at risk of being left in the dust. They get less choosy as time goes by for this reason.

The people I do know who are "old and alone" and are not widowed or people who were abandoned by a former partner are people who are alone by choice and are not dissatisfied with it.

One of my longest term and dearest friends will likely live his life single, and this is a preferred state for him. I wouldn't say he is picky. I would say he is not interested in being in a relationship, even a casual one, with anybody. He likes people just fine. But he is very introverted, and honestly, probably more comfortable being asexual. He's attempted a few romantic relationships in adulthood, but none have stuck, because they're just really not his thing. He stayed in one longer than he probably should have, both because he felt like he was "supposed" to want a relationship as an adult, and because he felt he he owed it to the woman, who was pretty awesome, to try to make it work. I think that that experience also plays into his choice to just not be involved with anybody. He does better on his own.

[49ersfan27]

Most of the picky people I know found what they were looking for eventually.

So, nope.

[TabulaRasa]

Originally Posted by 49ersfan27

Most of the picky people I know found what they were looking for eventually.

Or, relaxed their standards so as not to remain alone. Also common.

[Bluefox]

This is all good to hear. I’m a pretty picky person myself. My mom even asked me the other day, “don’t you think you’re being too picky?” I said “Mom, I would rather be single than be with someone in a half-assed sort of way, because both of us are going to end up being miserable.” It sucks being alone sometimes, but I’d like to think I will eventually find someone I can commit to 100%

[Amelie90]

I know people who never married, but I won't assume that it was due to them being "picky." Not everyone is lucky enough to find the right person to marry.