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This thread is implying that "old and alone" is bad, and it isn't necessarily.
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But is there something wrong with growing "old and alone?" Why is it better to spend your life with a person who you didn't really want? Because if you really wanted them, I'd assume you wouldn't have chosen being alone over being with them.
She complains about not having a Man but won't even entertain a date from anyone she is presented with. Too insecure for a younger guy. Doesn't like Men older than her. Doesn't like guys her own age. Needs him to have a British or Aussie accent. Can't be a ginger or look like Richard Branson. It's always something.
So yes, we are discussing people who WANT to be in a relationship and do everything possible to prevent that from happening.
55 years old and still with ridiculous criteria.
My mother is the same age and the difference is she is NOT interested in another relationship. So there is no problem with her.
Feminists? You're reaching, sir. The same holds true for men. If they center their identity around being someone else's spouse, rather than having a rich life of career, hobbies and friends, then surely it will be harder for them to cope when the spouse dies. Common sense.
Thanks- that was my point. The example I used of someone taking it very hard after the loss of a spouse was a man.
A common, yet quite frankly, ridiculous "scare tactic" some people use to validate their relationship decisions in life.
Yeah- one thing that concerned me a bit with the last guy I met from Match.com (lunch this past Saturday) was that he was a recent widower and was dating again because he "didn't want to be alone". Other than that, he had some very good qualities and I'd see him again if he's interested, but I don't want someone motivated by fear. My motivation is finding someone who will add to my life. Having been through a first marriage that ended in flames, I am convinced that there are worse things in life than living alone.
A common, yet quite frankly, ridiculous "scare tactic" some people use to validate their relationship decisions in life.
You can be single and have a very full, social life, or you can be married and lonely, and everything in between.
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So yes, we are discussing people who WANT to be in a relationship and do everything possible to prevent that from happening.
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Yes. I guess I just assumed that people posting on "relationships" are interested in relationships, not in being alone. I know people who are happy being alone and they don't date or try to get married. So they don't post on relationships boards. They pursue their careers, hobbies and travel.
Yes. I guess I just assumed that people posting on "relationships" are interested in relationships, not in being alone. I know people who are happy being alone and they don't date or try to get married. So they don't post on relationships boards. They pursue their careers, hobbies and travel.
But you asked about people we know.
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Yes. I guess I just assumed that people posting on "relationships" are interested in relationships, not in being alone. I know people who are happy being alone and they don't date or try to get married. So they don't post on relationships boards. They pursue their careers, hobbies and travel.
Well. Sometimes they do.
I can think of at least 2, if not more, posters who insist that they want nothing to do with a relationship now or ever, yet they've been here posting.
I think that they were feeling judged and showed up with a "this agenda all of you push is bogus" attitude, but also you have to keep in mind that sometimes, an active forum, is an active forum. I'm on another forum where people are far more pleasant most of the time, than a lot of folks can be sometimes on CD, and yet I am here, not there, because this one is 100x more ACTIVE.
If you have something you want to say, Op, say it and be done with it. No need to disguise it under a "topic."
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