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Before my current bf, I hadn't been in many relationships. I was mostly involved in flings that would last about 3 weeks on average. I actually thought i was going to end up single but I had learned to love being single and wouldn't mind it at all.
I've been with my bf about six months (which is phenomenal for me). It didn't feel like we had much development with the relationship. It's not that it went too fast.. it just felt like he was going to be my bf from the beginning.. he acted like bf material and we instantly clicked.
We're both very busy.. both have two jobs so we only see each other about 1-2x a week. We've been on vacations together, said ILY and talked about meeting each other's family. It all feels fine and I like dating him. Content is a good word that may describe it.
I don't know if I would go so far as to say I've "settled". Because settling is when you're only with someone because you don't want to be single. I've done that. This isn't it. I guess I'm posting because I still think about being single from time to time. It's not that I want to date other men.. I actually lost my sex drive and he has brought it back up. The more time we spend together, the more we like each other, it seems. But I noticed that I still think about browsing dating apps just for fun... I have an itch to read the personals.. not because I'm looking for anybody in particular.. but I think I miss the feeling of being single. Being single felt dark, mysterious, sexy.. being in a relationships feels homely, cute, cuddly.. though I know some people on here may disagree.. hah..
I've thought about breaking up with him because I felt guilty about having these thoughts. But I don't know what the reason would even be... it's not like I would start dating if we broke up... I'm too busy honestly.. and the dating scene sucks.. haha.. I would probably go back to being on my own and enjoy being single.. but is that a good reason to break up with someone you still like? I used to date a lot of *******s so it didn't feel like a loss to cut them out of my life.. but this guy is different.. he has a good heart.. he genuinely cares about people.. and he's good to me. And I don't want him out of my life. But then why am I having these wandering thoughts? I do have ADD but I'm not sure if that has anything to do with it? I do wonder about a lot of things but the chances of me acting on every single thought is very unlikely.
There's often a "grass is greener" mentality when you're settled into a relationship, but it would be idiotic to throw it away because of this.
Commitment is a CHOICE. It's not a magic spell. It's a conscious decision you make every day to choose being with your partner over anyone else. So if you do love him, be smart and keep that promise.
I remember from your other posts how miserable you've been. This time things are actually going well. Don't squander that.
Before my current bf, I hadn't been in many relationships. I was mostly involved in flings that would last about 3 weeks on average. I actually thought i was going to end up single but I had learned to love being single and wouldn't mind it at all.
I've been with my bf about six months (which is phenomenal for me). It didn't feel like we had much development with the relationship. It's not that it went too fast.. it just felt like he was going to be my bf from the beginning.. he acted like bf material and we instantly clicked.
We're both very busy.. both have two jobs so we only see each other about 1-2x a week. We've been on vacations together, said ILY and talked about meeting each other's family. It all feels fine and I like dating him. Content is a good word that may describe it.
I don't know if I would go so far as to say I've "settled". Because settling is when you're only with someone because you don't want to be single. I've done that. This isn't it. I guess I'm posting because I still think about being single from time to time. It's not that I want to date other men.. I actually lost my sex drive and he has brought it back up. The more time we spend together, the more we like each other, it seems. But I noticed that I still think about browsing dating apps just for fun... I have an itch to read the personals.. not because I'm looking for anybody in particular.. but I think I miss the feeling of being single. Being single felt dark, mysterious, sexy.. being in a relationships feels homely, cute, cuddly.. though I know some people on here may disagree.. hah..
I've thought about breaking up with him because I felt guilty about having these thoughts. But I don't know what the reason would even be... it's not like I would start dating if we broke up... I'm too busy honestly.. and the dating scene sucks.. haha.. I would probably go back to being on my own and enjoy being single.. but is that a good reason to break up with someone you still like? I used to date a lot of *******s so it didn't feel like a loss to cut them out of my life.. but this guy is different.. he has a good heart.. he genuinely cares about people.. and he's good to me. And I don't want him out of my life. But then why am I having these wandering thoughts? I do have ADD but I'm not sure if that has anything to do with it? I do wonder about a lot of things but the chances of me acting on every single thought is very unlikely.
Yes its normal. It happens to me.
There will be days you will be totally in love with your partner, and other days when you are just best friends, and other days when you can't stand him. Its all normal.
When you start to want to feel single, flirt with your partner. It keeps things fun and romantic.
Happy for you and your new long term relationship.
I suspect you are just looking for the attention and affirmation.
Everyone enjoys that, but that is shallow and unsatisfying in the long run. It has no meaning besides stroking your ego.
Everyone has to choose what is important to them. Be honest, and act accordingly.
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It took several years of being married for me to adjust to the new normal. Up till then, I’d enjoyed flirtations with numerous men and a different kind of social life. You don’t change over night.
If you remain happy in your relationship and it develops in a way that suits both of you, you’ll gradually lose the habit of looking at other options.
So, the winning relationship style for you is to ignore your partner and never say anything positive about them? You must be fun.
I have no idea how you came to that conclusion?
My comment was in regard to her wanting to go online to dating sites.
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So, the winning relationship style for you is to ignore your partner and never say anything positive about them? You must be fun.
I would bet that Mikala meant craving affirmation from OTHER people. The excitement of receiving attention from other guys. And, she'd be right. THAT'S shallow and the pay-off is fleeting.
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