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I wasn't "forcing" anything as you put it. You weren't there for the conversation, so you have no idea what went on. I was just keeping it light. She simply isn't interested IN talking.
You start at least one thread a week here where you were talking to a woman at a Meetup and reveal all kinds of details about this woman's life to us, when you only just met. I don't think you keep it 'light' at all yet want to brush if off as not being attractive enough for her.
I'm not sure you have a good grasp of how your interactions are coming off.
If you're communicating through FB, the frequency may be getting to her. If she gets a notification every time you ping back with a question, that can be very annoying.
People use social media differently, and they have different definitions of "friendship." She TOLD you she wants friends but obviously means it in more of an acquaintance way.
But you can turn it into a sour grapes thing if you want.
You start at least one thread a week here where you were talking to a woman at a Meetup and reveal all kinds of details about this woman's life to us, when you only just met. I don't think you keep it 'light' at all yet want to brush if off as not being attractive enough for her.
I have to reveal details, because people keep wanting more info to come to a conclusion, which is the nature of most message boards. Usually a back story is helpful, otherwise, you'll just get posters asking questions about the person you're interacting with to form an opinion.
I'm not sure you have a good grasp of how your interactions are coming off.
If you're communicating through FB, the frequency may be getting to her. If she gets a notification every time you ping back with a question, that can be very annoying.
People use social media differently, and they have different definitions of "friendship." She TOLD you she wants friends but obviously means it in more of an acquaintance way.
But you can turn it into a sour grapes thing if you want.
The frequency is few and far between actually. Like a couple per week. No biggie. If it was throughout the day or daily, then I could see how it would be annoying. Of course, SHE was the one that invited me to add her. So you'd think she'd be open to conversing, even though my conversations are rare with her.
Let me put it this way, this is the first time in a long time I had a woman react in such a fashion. Most are like an open book or at least open to saying something about themselvs.
The frequency is few and far between actually. Like a couple per week. No biggie. If it was throughout the day or daily, then I could see how it would be annoying. Of course, SHE was the one that invited me to add her. So you'd think she'd be open to conversing, even though my conversations are rare with her.
Let me put it this way, this is the first time in a long time I had a woman react in such a fashion. Most are like an open book or at least open to saying something about themselvs.
Well, now you know. Live and learn. Try not to extrapolate it into anything other than one person's quirks bumping against another's.
I might react the same way as this woman if I thought someone was trying to hit on me, but needed to maintain civility. I'm not interested, please keep your distance.
By 'friends' she probably meant something more like 'friendly acquaintances from a distance'.
I'm not sure you have a good grasp of how your interactions are coming off.
If you're communicating through FB, the frequency may be getting to her. If she gets a notification every time you ping back with a question, that can be very annoying.
People use social media differently, and they have different definitions of "friendship." She TOLD you she wants friends but obviously means it in more of an acquaintance way.
But you can turn it into a sour grapes thing if you want.
The frequency is few and far between actually. Like a couple per week. No biggie. If it was throughout the day or daily, then I could see how it would be annoying. Of course, SHE was the one that invited me to add her. So you'd think she'd be open to conversing, even though my conversations are rare with her.
Let me put it this way, this is the first time in a long time I had a woman react in such a fashion. Most are like an open book or at least open to saying something about themselvs.
I can't speak for anyone else, but for me, I don't chat just to chat with someone I don't already know. When I get to know friends, it sparks in the beginning through already shared interests or activities, and that is what we talk about to start, and then we morph into other areas of our life. I never just chat with people in order to get to know them as friends. I do chat to men who I am interested in dating just to get to know them. There is a difference. Friends are more organic, dates are more forced.
Going forward, try to think about how you might talk/chat to a guy friend. That is how you should do it with her too.
If I'm not interested in dating a guy that I recently met at a meetup and he asks me to hang out, I will typically ask him up front is this a date or are we just hanging out. This way we are all clear as to what is going on and where everyone stands and we can continue to be friends. I believe guys and girls can be friends if they just up front with each other.
I agree with this reply, but the bolded part in pink is not always true.
I agree with those who say your conversations with her were too frequent or intense. It seems you were asking too many questions, which obviously turned her off.
This is my opinion as a 50something woman who has many platonic male friends--real friends, not just acquaintances, and not exBFs--with friendships that go back decades.
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