Is lack of ambition a turn off? (how to, women, attracted)

[startingfromscratchagain]

I dont really know how to express this. I guess what I'm saying is if you are the type of person who doesn't really dream big and want much, is that going to be a huge turn off when trying to date?

[picardlx]

CDr basically chewed a guy out over not placing too much emphasis on his vocation.

I suspect people are much more forgiving in general populace.

[treasurekidd]

Yes, a huge turn off. I've always been someone with big dreams who's always looking to move up and better myself, not just for me but for my family as well, and I'm lucky enough to be with a woman who thinks the same way. A lazy, self centered, do nothing, snowflake woman with an entitlement mindset wouldn't last 5 minutes with me, lol. And believe me, there's LOTS of them out there these days, of both genders.

[Huckleberry3911948]

Yes a man without ambition is not attractive
What is worse is a man so afraid of failure that he becomes highly successful
In fact is scared rich
Women are in fact attracted to him but Women dont really like him bek he is paranoid and hard to manipulate
In fact lots of people don’t like him
So there are worse things than ambition issues

[startingfromscratchagain]

Originally Posted by treasurekidd

Yes, a huge turn off. I've always been someone with big dreams who's always looking to move up and better myself, not just for me but for my family as well, and I'm lucky enough to be with a woman who thinks the same way. A lazy, self centered, do nothing, snowflake woman with an entitlement mindset wouldn't last 5 minutes with me, lol. And believe me, there's LOTS of them out there these days, of both genders.

But you make it sound like there is no in between. And bettering oneself need not be linked to income, although you didnt say it did. For instance, I'd rather spend my time learning to play a new instrument than put in " insert hours" st the office to get a bigger paycheck. I dont know, I feel like there is so much emphasis placed on dreaming big, but so little placed on enjoying small things always around us...

[ThisTown123]

Originally Posted by startingfromscratchagain

But you make it sound like there is no in between. And bettering oneself need not be linked to income, although you didnt say it did. For instance, I'd rather spend my time learning to play a new instrument than put in " insert hours" st the office to get a bigger paycheck. I dont know, I feel like there is so much emphasis placed on dreaming big, but do little places on enjoying small things that are always around us...

Right. There's more to life than climbing the corporate ladder.

[At Arms Length]

Yes. Goals are a must.

It doesn't mean she has to be rich, professionally successful, college-educated. It means that I'd like her to want to do something with her life.

[Stockyman]

I think lack of ambition is one of the top turn offs for women. Lady repellant. Who wants to be with a hedonistic man unless he already has it made financially?

When I did OLD regularly I noticed almost all women wanted a man who was ambitious, had drive, a go-getter. Being ambitious definitely gets you in the good books with most women.

[Archaic]

Lack of ambition is a turn-off for me as a woman. Ambition doesn't need to be what drives a man's career goals, but it has to drive SOMETHING in him: a hobby, a cause, an intellectual pursuit, something.

[srjth]

My ex-bf had himself marked as "Somewhat ambitious", whereas most men had themselves marked as ambitious. This didn't turn me off because I consider myself the same and had the same marked. We both felt content with our place in life and had no desire to climb higher on the corporate ladder. That is something I can understand. Now does that mean that we both didn't make a decent living to support ourselves? No, we both did and he made more than me actually.