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More sex in developed nations won't necessarily mean significantly more pregnancies. After all, there's birth control.
And literally if the world were running out of people, I doubt people would be thrown into cages together and ordered to do it. Women would simply donate, or sell, eggs, and men would sell...egg juice, add one laboratory, mix well, rent a surrogate et voila. OR, provide incentives for people to naturally conceive, which would actually save money in the long run. (This assuming some very very unlikely scenario of the world population dwindling to extinction proportions based on people using birth control. Just not going to happen, but...we'll go with it.)
But I doubt sex itself is completely going out of style. People will keep doing it. Fewer people doing it, though (due to, I hope, smarter choices and less peer pressure), simply WON'T result in our species dying out. Not at this point. Incentives would be provided or something before that time. But again...that's the stuff of apocalyptic novels, not anything realistic. People will keep doing it but people ARE more selective now and DON'T feel as pressured to "just" do it simply because b/c is available...and I think that's a positive step.
We should have choice...especially since we can.
Future sex will be like in Demolition Man - fluid exchange? Ewwww!
The very idea someone would demand or expect sex at any phase of a relationship just says ******* to me. Of course I do not have relationships anymore for this very reason, since most people are shallow a holes driven by base needs. How about three years? That would be a far more reasonable amount of time to actually get to know someone well enough to want to have sex with them. Well, ok, three months...
Your character depends on when you decide to sleep with someone? I must live on some other planet. I view sex as a step in developing a committed long term relationship. I'm judging character from the first moment I meet them. I'm screening for character and compatibility. The mutual decision to have sex could be the first date, the 3rd date, weeks later, or never happen. It's part of screening for compatibility. The worst is dating a virgin or a very inexperienced woman who views sex as something sacred.
If you are a believer, then sex IS sacred and should be saved for your spouse. However, today there are very few virgins walking up the aisle. I believe sex is very special and ideally should be between a couple who loves each other. Do I mess up sometimes? Yes, but most of us do because we have physical urges and it's the rare couple that doesn't give in to those urges until they know each other better. Personally, I don't think you can know a person well enough after just three dates to become intimate with him/her and I'm not going to follow some arbitrary rule just to make sure the person I have been dating just a short time is good in bed. If you love each other and are open enough with each other then sexual problems can be worked out but only if there is willingness to learn in order to please the partner.
Why? What is crappy about not putting sex up on some pedestal? It's just sex; it is not the end all be all of human existence.
You are sharing your body with someone, that is a big deal in my book. I'm not becoming intimate with someone until I trust them. Granted I am a Boomer and so I may have a completely different outlook on sex than someone in their 20's or 30's but you also have to think about all the other people the person you are hooking up with has been with. Because unless you use a condom 100% of the time you leave yourself open to not only a possible pregnancy but all sorts of STD's.
You are sharing your body with someone, that is a big deal in my book. I'm not becoming intimate with someone until I trust them. Granted I am a Boomer and so I may have a completely different outlook on sex than someone in their 20's or 30's but you also have to think about all the other people the person you are hooking up with has been with. Because unless you use a condom 100% of the time you leave yourself open to not only a possible pregnancy but all sorts of STD's.
Me neither. I would have to trust them to an extreme, and also myself. But I can take it or leave it. Sex may be a big deal, but it is not something that I NEED to have. I went a couple of years without sex and I'm still alive...
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You are sharing your body with someone, that is a big deal in my book. I'm not becoming intimate with someone until I trust them. Granted I am a Boomer and so I may have a completely different outlook on sex than someone in their 20's or 30's but you also have to think about all the other people the person you are hooking up with has been with. Because unless you use a condom 100% of the time you leave yourself open to not only a possible pregnancy but all sorts of STD's.
Good thing they have tests for that. I can't even recall the last time I didn't use a condom though. I'm sure if I really tried I could come up with one.
And baby boomers, lots of them, slept around like crazy. They were the ones in their teens and 20s during the Free Love times and the advent of hormonal birth control.
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OR, provide incentives for people to naturally conceive, which would actually save money in the long run. (This assuming some very very unlikely scenario of the world population dwindling to extinction proportions based on people using birth control. Just not going to happen, but...we'll go with it.)
