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Exactly. It's not like you have complete control over the matter. It takes two to tango, and you may not meet your tango partner until you're 40. It's not something you can plan.
I had chances to settle down in my 20's, but had no desire to. In my 30's I wasn't sure if I would want to get married. I knew it would take someone fantastic with the same ideas as me to give up being single. I did get married and we have been married for ages. If my son ever asks when he gets older, I would encourage him to not get married in your 20's. You change so much during those years.
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I kind of take exception to the idea “you can’t control when it happens and you can’t control your heart.” Okay you might not control catching feelings but you can decide whether or not to pursue those feelings.
For women it's different from men. Women have the issue of fertility and the major decline in their looks coming as they approach 30. So most women I've known tend to want to be married or at least in a serious relationship before that point. Most women in their 30s I've seen are desperate for a serious relationship with the potential for marriage and if they're over 40 it's near hopeless. You simply just do not have as long to wait as a woman if you want marriage and a family.
For men, well we have a very long time to wait. Most men in modern times don't hit our financial stride until our 30s and finances are what makes men most attractive to women. Men's looks also don't really decline much in our 30s (or sometimes even improve).
My parents actually were with each other in high school and got married in their early 20s but times have changed and I know very few couples where this happens with today. Most tend to be in their late 20s at the youngest.
I don't think it's a good idea to get married before 24 either way as people under that age tend to still want to have fun and enjoy the benefits of the single, young life. I've watched countless peers who married young end up divorced or in miserable marriages. I think people who marry under 24 in modern times feel that they've missed on a lot of living and regret it later on.
The only thing I'd say is men in their 30s still have to think about the age of their partner if they want kids. For example, I went on yesterday with a guy who was 36 (I'm 27 almost 28). He has a six-figure job and he's good looking in my book and yet he brought up within about 30 minutes that he wants to be married by 40 and have kids by then. This felt really bizarre considering it was our first date. He also asked at one point if someone "my age" would consider dating someone "his age" which sort of tells me that he's not getting dates with tons of girls in their 20s. For me personally, 36 isn't too old necessarily but having a boyfriend who is 39 or 40 would be something I'd have to consider and figure out how to explain to my mother. If I was 30+ it would be no problem. It's silly it's just a few years of difference but a big part of it is perception.
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None of my friends in my 20s, save one, married in their 20s. Most that did marry did so mid to late 30s, and kids (if they had any) late 30s to 40s. The one that married in their 20s didn't have such good luck. None that married in their mid 30s or later have separated.
For women it's different from men. Women have the issue of fertility and the major decline in their looks coming as they approach 30. So most women I've known tend to want to be married or at least in a serious relationship before that point. Most women in their 30s I've seen are desperate for a serious relationship with the potential for marriage and if they're over 40 it's near hopeless. You simply just do not have as long to wait as a woman if you want marriage and a family.
For men, well we have a very long time to wait. Most men in modern times don't hit our financial stride until our 30s and finances are what makes men most attractive to women. Men's looks also don't really decline much in our 30s (or sometimes even improve).
My parents actually were with each other in high school and got married in their early 20s but times have changed and I know very few couples where this happens with today. Most tend to be in their late 20s at the youngest.
I don't think it's a good idea to get married before 24 either way as people under that age tend to still want to have fun and enjoy the benefits of the single, young life. I've watched countless peers who married young end up divorced or in miserable marriages. I think people who marry under 24 in modern times feel that they've missed on a lot of living and regret it later on.
So what’s the point of getting married if your wife is going to lose her looks as she approaches 30 while you’re still going to be some stud?
For women it's different from men. Women have the issue of fertility and the major decline in their looks coming as they approach 30. So most women I've known tend to want to be married or at least in a serious relationship before that point. Most women in their 30s I've seen are desperate for a serious relationship with the potential for marriage and if they're over 40 it's near hopeless. You simply just do not have as long to wait as a woman if you want marriage and a family.
For men, well we have a very long time to wait. Most men in modern times don't hit our financial stride until our 30s and finances are what makes men most attractive to women. Men's looks also don't really decline much in our 30s (or sometimes even improve).
My parents actually were with each other in high school and got married in their early 20s but times have changed and I know very few couples where this happens with today. Most tend to be in their late 20s at the youngest.
I don't think it's a good idea to get married before 24 either way as people under that age tend to still want to have fun and enjoy the benefits of the single, young life. I've watched countless peers who married young end up divorced or in miserable marriages. I think people who marry under 24 in modern times feel that they've missed on a lot of living and regret it later on.
Right. Because 30 is soooo old, and she just won’t look the same!
I look fitter, trimmer, and hotter than I looked in my 20s, hands down. I am also getting a heckuva lot more male attention.
It is all about taking care of yourself. This “30 is your looks death” attitude on here is ridiculous.
I know a legitimately smokin hot 48 year old woman. She is an endurance athlete. And I know some not-so-smokin 18 year olds.
So what’s the point of getting married if your wife is going to lose her looks as she approaches 30 while you’re still going to be some stud?
Wait a min., people loose their looks at the age of 30? That's quite far from the truth. Hell, I've seen 40 year olds run circles around 20-somethings. lol
Right. Because 30 is soooo old, and she just won’t look the same!
I look fitter, trimmer, and hotter than I looked in my 20s, hands down. I am also getting a heckuva lot more male attention.
It is all about taking care of yourself. This “30 is your looks death” attitude on here is ridiculous.
I know a legitimately smokin hot 48 year old woman. She is an endurance athlete. And I know some not-so-smokin 18 year olds.
Just FTR. Men’s looks do decline as well.
These dudes are just trollin' man. lol Sometimes it's hard to believe that they even believe what they're saying.
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