If a guy is only as faithful as his options why do they sometimes cheat on or leave their 9-10 for a 5-6? (married, woman)
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I guess this a true but my sister is a 8-9 and her ex cheated on her with a 4-5 and he left her for that 4-5 after she found out he was cheating but the thing is him cheating had nothing to do with her. She’s kind,sweet She was even paying for movie dates and giving him money for gas buying him food just because that’s who she is and he didn’t have a job so she trusted he would return those favors once he got on his feet. I told her it wasn’t a good idea to do those things but she loved him and cared. Of course she got upset and and would go off sometimes but that was only because he would go a day without texting or calling or without texting or calling back. Always bailing on their plans together, not always but often. And she but outside of that she never hit him or nagged him over crazy things like him not giving her enough attention. She lost her virginity to him and experienced a lot of her first with him. She was crazy about him so it was nothing she did that made him cheat And even after he left her he still messaged her and kept in touch, flirting and all, liking her pictures, watching her Instagram/Facebook stories all while still with his 5-6 and she found out he’s engaged to that 5-6 But I doubt that means much to him.
It's stupid to rate people with numbers. You sound like you're trying to work out an algebra problem.
People get with whoever they want to get with, and the "math" will not always make sense to you. If people only are as faithful as their options, even the lesser numbers are also options.
No idea. I knew of a man like that when I was growing up. He was married to a beautiful, kind woman, but he started an affair with the housekeeper who was frankly a lot less attractive. His wife left him and he married the housekeeper.
For what it's worth, though, he and the housekeeper are still married, nearly 20 years later.
People still do that? They marry the maid? I've come across that in history books, but not IRL in my lifetime. Hitler's dad married the maid. Der Fuhrer was the product of that marriage.
I guess this a true but my sister is a 8-9 and her ex cheated on her with a 4-5 and he left her for that 4-5 after she found out he was cheating but the thing is him cheating had nothing to do with her. She’s kind,sweet She was even paying for movie dates and giving him money for gas buying him food just because that’s who she is and he didn’t have a job so she trusted he would return those favors once he got on his feet. I told her it wasn’t a good idea to do those things but she loved him and cared. Of course she got upset and and would go off sometimes but that was only because he would go a day without texting or calling or without texting or calling back. Always bailing on their plans together, not always but often. And she but outside of that she never hit him or nagged him over crazy things like him not giving her enough attention. She lost her virginity to him and experienced a lot of her first with him. She was crazy about him so it was nothing she did that made him cheat And even after he left her he still messaged her and kept in touch, flirting and all, liking her pictures, watching her Instagram/Facebook stories all while still with his 5-6 and she found out he’s engaged to that 5-6 But I doubt that means much to him.
This happens because people are not set in stone, they are very wishy washy, what they want one day may be different the next. Feelings change, relationships are not always constant, and people change significantly everyday. Although, you want to make sense of this, there is no way you can. You were not in that relationship, you are not your sister, her ex, or the other girl. No matter how perfect someone appears to be, it guarantees nothing. ALL relationships carry some type of risk. People are imperfect and they do stupid inconsiderate things. Human nature has taught us this time and time again.
One person's "10" may be another person's "-10." I just wish people could get a grasp on this instead of just asking why, why, why? All the time when the answer is RIGHT there.
Alpha complex...you get two types of guys who fall under that category: Type 1 - the guy who runs around pissing on everything and banging every woman that he can in a display of power, and Type 2 - the protector who has to take care of everybody and everything that he can just because. There's sort of a yin and yang type of relationship between the two, and Type 2 is a unicorn of sorts but does exist.
That's an old Chris Rock joke. It is meant to suggest that the guy is only as faithful as his options, meaning that if he is attractive, charismatic or successful in some way, the more women will be willing to sleep with him. Therefore, he is more likely to be faithful if he doesn't have that many options. No doubt there are some that buy into that theory, but certainly not all men.
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Originally Posted by Linaa
I guess this a true but my sister is a 8-9 and her ex cheated on her with a 4-5 and he left her for that 4-5 after she found out he was cheating but the thing is him cheating had nothing to do with her. She’s kind,sweet She was even paying for movie dates and giving him money for gas buying him food just because that’s who she is and he didn’t have a job so she trusted he would return those favors once he got on his feet. I told her it wasn’t a good idea to do those things but she loved him and cared. Of course she got upset and and would go off sometimes but that was only because he would go a day without texting or calling or without texting or calling back. Always bailing on their plans together, not always but often. And she but outside of that she never hit him or nagged him over crazy things like him not giving her enough attention. She lost her virginity to him and experienced a lot of her first with him. She was crazy about him so it was nothing she did that made him cheat And even after he left her he still messaged her and kept in touch, flirting and all, liking her pictures, watching her Instagram/Facebook stories all while still with his 5-6 and she found out he’s engaged to that 5-6 But I doubt that means much to him.
What your example clearly illustrates is that her attractiveness has nothing to do with it. It has everything to do with his character. Look at the way he treated and used her. His lack of respect and entitled attitude is a clear indicator of the type of person who would cheat.
That's an old Chris Rock joke. It is meant to suggest that the guy is only as faithful as his options, meaning that if he is attractive, charismatic or successful in some way, the more women will be willing to sleep with him. Therefore, he is more likely to be faithful if he doesn't have that many options. No doubt there are some that buy into that theory, but certainly not all men.
What your example clearly illustrates is that her attractiveness has nothing to do with it. It has everything to do with his character. Look at the way he treated and used her. His lack of respect and entitled attitude is a clear indicator of the type of person who would cheat.
That's an old Chris Rock joke. It is meant to suggest that the guy is only as faithful as his options, meaning that if he is attractive, charismatic or successful in some way, the more women will be willing to sleep with him. Therefore, he is more likely to be faithful if he doesn't have that many options. No doubt there are some that buy into that theory, .
It's been studied and is the only independent variable that can predict a man's cheating: Opportunity
Does that mean every guy would? Hell, no. Men are not some giant group that shares the same brain and all acts alike.
I guess this a true but my sister is a 8-9 and her ex cheated on her with a 4-5 and he left her for that 4-5 after she found out he was cheating but the thing is him cheating had nothing to do with her. She’s kind,sweet She was even paying for movie dates and giving him money for gas buying him food just because that’s who she is and he didn’t have a job so she trusted he would return those favors once he got on his feet. I told her it wasn’t a good idea to do those things but she loved him and cared. Of course she got upset and and would go off sometimes but that was only because he would go a day without texting or calling or without texting or calling back. Always bailing on their plans together, not always but often. And she but outside of that she never hit him or nagged him over crazy things like him not giving her enough attention. She lost her virginity to him and experienced a lot of her first with him. She was crazy about him so it was nothing she did that made him cheat And even after he left her he still messaged her and kept in touch, flirting and all, liking her pictures, watching her Instagram/Facebook stories all while still with his 5-6 and she found out he’s engaged to that 5-6 But I doubt that means much to him.
Why are you analyzing your sister love life or discuss it on a public forum? Its not nice, you know? Does she knows what you're doing? Don't you have your own life?
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