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Old 10-03-2018, 09:48 PM
 
Location: Gila County Arizona
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First, I am HUGE fan of ghosting.

In my years of going silent, I have never done an exit interview, had to explain to the police, or engaged
in heated discourse.

Therefor, to my mind, "ghosting" works amazingly well.

So, recently I found it necessary to discontinue a relationship with a young lady......

Against my better judgement and prior success, I simply told her that it would not be very likely that she would be hearing from me again..... The end.

Is this considered "ghosting" or not..... in as much as I told her my intention of disappearing.
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Old 10-03-2018, 09:59 PM
 
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No

From my understanding, ghosting is when you don't communicate, you just straight up disappear.
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Old 10-03-2018, 10:17 PM
 
Location: California
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That's not ghosting, and it was good of you to tell her. Everyone should be like this. Ghosting someone is cruel. I give someone a reason even if I've never met in person and was only talking to them online. I think people deserve to know what they did to turn you off.
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Old 10-04-2018, 01:24 AM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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First, I am HUGE fan of ghosting.

In my years of going silent, I have never done an exit interview, had to explain to the police, or engaged
in heated discourse.

Therefor, to my mind, "ghosting" works amazingly well.

So, recently I found it necessary to discontinue a relationship with a young lady......

Against my better judgement and prior success, I simply told her that it would not be very likely that she would be hearing from me again..... The end.

Is this considered "ghosting" or not..... in as much as I told her my intention of disappearing.
Nope, not ghosting. You gave her notice, ghosting doesn’t do that.

I disagree that people deserve to have an explanation of why your breaking it off with them. That just gets into awkward conversation and then begging for another chance crying making idiots out of themselves from my experience.
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Old 10-04-2018, 01:33 AM
 
Location: Honolulu, HI
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Against my better judgement and prior success, I simply told her that it would not be very likely that she would be hearing from me again..... The end.
Not ghosting, just rude. You're coming across as an insecure person too scared to appropriately and maturely break off contact with someone. "I'm a HUGE fan of ghosting!"

A simple, "this isn't going to work but you're a nice person and will find a better match for you" works just fine.
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Old 10-04-2018, 06:09 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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A simple, "this isn't going to work but you're a nice person and will find a better match for you" works just fine.

Right? How hard is it to be a half decent person?!?
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Old 10-04-2018, 06:36 AM
 
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Right? How hard is it to be a half decent person?!?
Haha welcome to 2018.
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Old 10-04-2018, 06:43 AM
 
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First, I am HUGE fan of ghosting.

In my years of going silent, I have never done an exit interview, had to explain to the police, or engaged
in heated discourse.

Therefor, to my mind, "ghosting" works amazingly well.

So, recently I found it necessary to discontinue a relationship with a young lady......

Against my better judgement and prior success, I simply told her that it would not be very likely that she would be hearing from me again..... The end.

Is this considered "ghosting" or not..... in as much as I told her my intention of disappearing.
How does your topic relate to police involvement?
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Old 10-04-2018, 06:47 AM
 
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Right? How hard is it to be a half decent person?!?
You'd be surprised.
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Old 10-04-2018, 06:51 AM
 
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How does your topic relate to police involvement?
I wonder this too, lol.

Just say "hey I don't think we're gonna work out." and it's done. How does that go to police involvement?

Or if you want to be polite
"Hey you're a sweet and nice girl and everything, and some day some guy is going to be very lucky to have you but I just don't feel that we are going to work out, I wish you the best"

Ghosting is for cowards, regardless of gender.
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