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What's sad is, this is how our our parents and grand parents met each other. Of course, women back then were more eager to find companionship. Now women prefer to use social media to keep men at arm's length and not make eye contact in public.
I recall one time, and I wasn't even trying anything, was loading up my groceries onto the belt and a woman came up in line behind me. I said, "Hey, how's it going" with a nice smile on my face. She looks at me, doesn't say a word, then looks away. Didn't even say "Hi" back.
Then I thought ,"Yeah, society as tanked ,lol"
Would you have stopped bagging your groceries, to notice an old man in line behind you and smiled, asked "hey hows it goin'?" and waited for a response, then decided the response was memorable?
If the woman had responded, wouldn't you have taken the opportunity to then begin a conversation?
She sized you up, decided it was most likely you were "trying something" and decided it best to not say anything.
Maybe she personally is rude, but your posts indicate it is women who have made "society tank", and it's a woman's assumed position to keep men at arms's length.
What would you do if found out this is not the case?
Would you have stopped bagging your groceries, to notice an old man in line behind you and smiled, asked "hey hows it goin'?" and waited for a response, then decided the response was memorable?
If the woman had responded, wouldn't you have taken the opportunity to then begin a conversation? She sized you up, decided it was most likely you were "trying something" and decided it best to not say anything.
Maybe she personally is rude, but your posts indicate it is women who have made "society tank", and it's a woman's assumed position to keep men at arms's length.
What would you do if found out this is not the case?
This. Women in every era have done this. They've always been open to finding companionship, but they've also always sized guys up. Many women, just like many men, decide at first glance whether or not someone is their "type". It has ever been thus. It's not a gendered behavior; it's common to most humans.
I've never been ignored in a check-out line, although I'll talk to anybody and everybody. My most recent convo was with with a dude who appeared to be in his 80s. He was trying a canned Margarita and we discussed our own Margarita recipes.
What's sad is, this is how our our parents and grand parents met each other. Of course, women back then were more eager to find companionship. Now women prefer to use social media to keep men at arm's length and not make eye contact in public.
I recall one time, and I wasn't even trying anything, was loading up my groceries onto the belt and a woman came up in line behind me. I said, "Hey, how's it going" with a nice smile on my face. She looks at me, doesn't say a word, then looks away. Didn't even say "Hi" back.
Then I thought ,"Yeah, society as tanked ,lol"
Your smile may have seemed kind of predatory.
Yes, in the old days people might meet this way, but if the woman didn't like the approach, she'd easily be as "rude" as you're describing, especially if she sensed a come-on.
What's sad is, this is how our our parents and grand parents met each other. Of course, women back then were more eager to find companionship. Now women prefer to use social media to keep men at arm's length and not make eye contact in public.
I recall one time, and I wasn't even trying anything, was loading up my groceries onto the belt and a woman came up in line behind me. I said, "Hey, how's it going" with a nice smile on my face. She looks at me, doesn't say a word, then looks away. Didn't even say "Hi" back.
Then I thought ,"Yeah, society as tanked ,lol"
Keep men at arms length??? Some men, yes. Some, no. If you find yourself in one arena, then check thyself.
Society has tanked because she didn't want to talk to the guy in front of her oddly saying hi??????
You might think it's pleasant but we women know the "I'm going to talk to everyone & anyone especially at the grocery store" guy. They're like a beacon. You can see it coming a mile away.
Would you have stopped bagging your groceries, to notice an old man in line behind you and smiled, asked "hey hows it goin'?" and waited for a response, then decided the response was memorable?
If the woman had responded, wouldn't you have taken the opportunity to then begin a conversation?
She sized you up, decided it was most likely you were "trying something" and decided it best to not say anything.
Maybe she personally is rude, but your posts indicate it is women who have made "society tank", and it's a woman's assumed position to keep men at arms's length.
What would you do if found out this is not the case?
Thisssssssssssssssssssssssss. This. And more this.
Although, it will be written off because we MUST be mistaken. LOL.
Would you have stopped bagging your groceries, to notice an old man in line behind you and smiled, asked "hey hows it goin'?" and waited for a response, then decided the response was memorable?
If the woman had responded, wouldn't you have taken the opportunity to then begin a conversation?
She sized you up, decided it was most likely you were "trying something" and decided it best to not say anything.
Maybe she personally is rude, but your posts indicate it is women who have made "society tank", and it's a woman's assumed position to keep men at arms's length.
What would you do if found out this is not the case?
Just like Lovehound, I've struck up conversations with others as I'm a regular at the store. Usually with the staff. The customers vary of course. Hardly see the same ones twice.
I about busted a gut when someone thought my smile was "predatory"...exaggerate much?
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oddly saying hi
The bolded. Hyperbole much?
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but if the woman didn't like the approach
What's not to like about an approach. It's a neutral situation. If anything, a positive hello. Nothing more. Not sure why you're making it out more than it's suppose to be.
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