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Call him when you get home. Anything that is complicated gets so misunderstood over texts, including apologies.
When you call him say, you are sorry to hear he's been stressed. Tell him you've been thinking about the last few times you were together, and wanted to apologize for x, y, z (ex, you didn't communicate well with him, you made him feel guilty, you regret the text you sent). Tell him you really want to try and work on it with him.
This is how mature men who are into you act. They WILL go after you, trust me on this.
I would call him when i get out, but because of his work schedule i thi k he might be at work when i get out of class and he cant have his phone on him.
I might take Belles advice and send the message first real quick.
I would call him when i get out, but because of his work schedule i thi k he might be at work when i get out of class and he cant have his phone on him.
I might take Belles advice and send the message first real quick.
Class or not, if you have time to post here, you have time to text, "Sounds good! Let me know when." Then leave it at that. No more ominous, "We need to talk..." messages.
I took your advice. I did mix some of Levels advice in too.
I do feel bad about him being stressed because i constantly get stressed. So i told him that im sorry that hes been stressed and i also said that sounds good, let me know when.
I honestly think in most situations you should just ask yourself how you would want to be treated.
If you hate to have your texts ignored or put off for hours, then respond when they text YOU in a reasonable time, even if only to say, "Great! Can't chat now but I will text you when I can."
Treat other people the way you would want them to treat you. Hopefully y'all can work something out, or at least clarify the issues before you end things.
I took your advice. I did mix some of Levels advice in too.
I do feel bad about him being stressed because i constantly get stressed. So i told him that im sorry that hes been stressed and i also said that sounds good, let me know when.
Lets see what happens.
now sit back and enjoy being pursued again. this really shouldn't be stressful for you. just enjoy it and go with the flow. keep a life to yourself, like your own hobbies and school so you don't feel like you are giving up your self to make time for him. that being said, when he asks you out, say yes.
I honestly think in most situations you should just ask yourself how you would want to be treated.
If you hate to have your texts ignored or put off for hours, then respond when they text YOU in a reasonable time, even if only to say, "Great! Can't chat now but I will text you when I can."
Treat other people the way you would want them to treat you. Hopefully y'all can work something out, or at least clarify the issues before you end things.
I think i was overreacting with the texting a bit. I can honestly say ive been spending too much time on my phone and i get that not everyone is obsessed with their phone.
I thi k honestly one to three texts a day just to catch up or see how a person is doing is fine with me, unless were in the middle of a conversation.
I also decided that i need to start putting my phone down and get back into the real world. Checking my phone 24/7 is not healthy.
The only issue i have with him is that i do require a message or something when he cant make the plans. That all i care for really. I do understand when people are tired, cause i am constantly tired lol.
now sit back and enjoy being pursued again. this really shouldn't be stressful for you. just enjoy it and go with the flow. keep a life to yourself, like your own hobbies and school so you don't feel like you are giving up your self to make time for him. that being said, when he asks you out, say yes.
Thanks, i dont agree that the man should be the one doing the only chasing. I think it should be 50/50 chasing, thats what keeps it balanced. And i know sometimes it wont always be 50/50.
I will definitely be posting how things go from here. I know for a fact i am a hopeless romantic and need to keep that crap to my romance novels lol.
Thank you for your advice and help for sure! I probabaly wont hear from him again until he gets a break at work so thats fine with me.
The only issue i have with him is that i do require a message or something when he cant make the plans.
Then that is what you should push for, if you two decide to keep dating. It is courteous and considerate to tell the other person you won't be able to make it. That's not too much to ask.
And yes, great idea to put down the phone a bit. Constantly checking your phone is just a sign that you're looking for external validation, and you don't want to be that kind of person.
I know for a fact i am a hopeless romantic and need to keep that crap to my romance novels lol.
Tenzo, keep in mind that this situation was brought on by his inconsideration. Your only part in it was not reacting well. In other words, it was not mutual fault. He treated you poorly. And, yes, you certainly could have handled it better...but you had every right to be mad at him.
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