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It's been said that most women don't necessarily get turned on by porn. They do, however, become aroused by romance -- movies and shows that contain love scenes in which two people kiss passionately and make love.
Does this hold water for you? And, if so, what are some examples of shows/movies that make you more inclined to make love to your partner?
First of all, if you are interested in understanding "female sexuality" then go read a book called "Come As You Are." It's very informative and accurate.
Secondly, in my case, well of course. I was a goth of the 90's, and that was back before emo and sparkly vampires and Buffy took it all over and made a mess of things. It was all about dark, indolent, debaucherous sexuality. There were music videos that could get my motor running! But movies, though? Hm...Interview With a Vampire maybe, or the Gary Oldman version of Dracula perhaps? How about soundtracks? I wouldn't say that the film, The Crow, does it for me necessarily, but the soundtrack was sure a winner. I got it on to Burn and Golgotha Tenement Blues many times over the years... In more recent years, I've got a thing for Guillermo Del Toro movies, so Crimson Peak or even The Shape of Water are good.
It's not so much a matter of watching people getting it on though. I don't really have the "monkey see/monkey do" internal roleplay mechanism that some (most?) folks seem to have. It's more setting a mental tone through good music and aesthetics for me. Light and color and mood. The Del Toro films have a certain artistry to them. It puts me in a good, receptive headspace. Like lighting candles or something.
Yes all the time but I'm not inclined to share those here. Every woman is different. Ask your wife.
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First of all, if you are interested in understanding "female sexuality" then go read a book called "Come As You Are." It's very informative and accurate.
Secondly, in my case, well of course. I was a goth of the 90's, and that was back before emo and sparkly vampires and Buffy took it all over and made a mess of things. It was all about dark, indolent, debaucherous sexuality. There were music videos that could get my motor running! But movies, though? Hm...Interview With a Vampire maybe, or the Gary Oldman version of Dracula perhaps? How about soundtracks? I wouldn't say that the film, The Crow, does it for me necessarily, but the soundtrack was sure a winner. I got it on to Burn and Golgotha Tenement Blues many times over the years... In more recent years, I've got a thing for Guillermo Del Toro movies, so Crimson Peak or even The Shape of Water are good.
It's not so much a matter of watching people getting it on though. I don't really have the "monkey see/monkey do" internal roleplay mechanism that some (most?) folks seem to have. It's more setting a mental tone through good music and aesthetics for me. Light and color and mood. The Del Toro films have a certain artistry to them. It puts me in a good, receptive headspace. Like lighting candles or something.
I say this respectfully, but both of you have admitted different "tastes" in life than the "average" person.
I have never once thought about "internal role play" Lol. I've never been into any movie actually. I'm more of the "that explosion is fake, that man would never truly act like that, this movie sucks and I can't forget to pay that bill".
I would think a man was insane selecting some romance movie and saying let's watch this. Shudder. Lol.
I say this respectfully, but both of you have admitted different "tastes" in life than the "average" person.
I have never once thought about "internal role play" Lol. I've never been into any movie actually. I'm more of the "that explosion is fake, that man would never truly act like that, this movie sucks and I can't forget to pay that bill".
I never said I have different tastes in life than the average person. That might be your description. It's not news that many women like romance movies or romantic comedies, etc. Or romance novels or even lusty novels and movies (i.e. Fifty Shades of Gray). If you want to make this man believe that no woman feels anything from movies or novels, you are going to get some opposition.
I say this respectfully, but both of you have admitted different "tastes" in life than the "average" person.
I have never once thought about "internal role play" Lol. I've never been into any movie actually. I'm more of the "that explosion is fake, that man would never truly act like that, this movie sucks and I can't forget to pay that bill".
I would think a man was insane selecting some romance movie and saying let's watch this. Shudder. Lol.
Someone bring back the Marlboro man already.
Of course! That's kind of the point though, isn't it? Are you saying that "everyone" is like you and "no one" is like either myself or srjth? I think she made a great point, that this dude needs to ask his wife. But I was willing to speak to the subject, because why not...it's fun. Kinda why we're here?
Oh but that whole "suspension of disbelief" thing you describe, about the explosion and other stuff? Last night I watched some old movie with my boyfriend, I don't think I even bothered to figure out what it was called, but there was this young boy, like 8 years old or so, who was the narrating voice of the film. In one scene he was sitting at a table, so happy and well behaved, while his adult custodians were dancing. I was like, "Nope!! Can't buy that. No boy that age sits quietly like that, unsupervised. He'd be running amok all over the room, crawling under tables and such. Nope. I just can't suspend my disbelief that much."
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He was sexy as hell.
You may have missed it but this guy is just trying to find something...ANYTHING...to turn his wife on.
Sam Elliott, though. Am I right?
To the OP: If you are trying to find something, anything, to turn your wife on, then I'm serious, read "Come As You Are" and then have her read it and then talk to her. This book is the single greatest resource I know of, for couples where the woman is experiencing a seeming lack of desire or sex drive. It has real explanations and real solutions. Also, I keep seeing ads for some internet tutorial driven course of exercises and talks called "OMG Yes" or some such...I have not felt a need to try it, but it could be useful. I've heard good things.
Of course! That's kind of the point though, isn't it? Are you saying that "everyone" is like you and "no one" is like either myself or srjth? I think she made a great point, that this dude needs to ask his wife. But I was willing to speak to the subject, because why not...it's fun. Kinda why we're here?
Oh but that whole "suspension of disbelief" thing you describe, about the explosion and other stuff? Last night I watched some old movie with my boyfriend, I don't think I even bothered to figure out what it was called, but there was this young boy, like 8 years old or so, who was the narrating voice of the film. In one scene he was sitting at a table, so happy and well behaved, while his adult custodians were dancing. I was like, "Nope!! Can't buy that. No boy that age sits quietly like that, unsupervised. He'd be running amok all over the room, crawling under tables and such. Nope. I just can't suspend my disbelief that much."
Sam Elliott, though. Am I right?
To the OP: If you are trying to find something, anything, to turn your wife on, then I'm serious, read "Come As You Are" and then have her read it and then talk to her. This book is the single greatest resource I know of, for couples where the woman is experiencing a seeming lack of desire or sex drive. It has real explanations and real solutions. Also, I keep seeing ads for some internet tutorial driven course of exercises and talks called "OMG Yes" or some such...I have not felt a need to try it, but it could be useful. I've heard good things.
I'm not saying everyone is like me, of course not but come on now...most are not into freaky (lol) on the regular nor reading how-to books on it either..
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