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Old 10-10-2018, 10:08 PM
 
Location: El Pueblo de Nuestra Señora la Reina de los Ángeles del Río Porciúncula
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I keep coming back to this, the bete noir of my salad days, that I was too shy for dancing, although I did it a few times but felt awkward. Upon retrospect I realize it wasn't my dancing skills, it was my youthful introversion that was the problem. I learned the moves but I didn't follow through. I totally killed my social anxiety a few years ago. Now I want to dance!

Upon a regular basis depending on my mood my spirits sometimes kick up and I find myself dancing with my reflection in my darkened patio door (like tonight). I also play YouTube videos and I emulate the dancing I see there, particularly this one by Maroon 5, "Girls Like You, feat: Cardi B":

https://youtu.be/aJOTlE1K90k

Tonight my spirits kicked up again and I was listening to Lady Gaga "Fame Monster" as I cleaned up my after dinner mess. I had a totally kick arse time dancing and wished I had a woman here to mirror my moves.

I believe that incrementing sexual attraction can be connected to taking your lady (or man) clubbing and dancing. My theory is that one major aspect of dancing is that it is very strenuous physical activity, and that each person is demonstrating their fitness by being able to exercise so hard. The weaklings wear out and go back to their tables. (This is why you can burn off so much alcohol as long as you keep dancing.)

Another element of my theory is that there is (of course) a sexual component of dancing that can be regarded as a precursor to future sexual performance. The theory is that if you dance well together it's a sign you can ... like birds of a feather, flock together.

Meanwhile I'm adjusting my OLD profile to indicate that I prefer women who like and want to go clubbing with me. I wanna see the best bands and make my moves on the dance floor!

Besides, my personal list of most physically strenuous activities are: 1.) skiing, 2.) dancing, 3.) working out at my gym, and 4.) ... well you can guess #4.

Your thoughts?
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Old 10-10-2018, 10:15 PM
 
Location: Middle of the ocean
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While dancing can be very sensual and a form of foreplay, I never enjoyed clubs for dates. It's loud, you can't really talk, it's pretty much just good for shots and dancing.
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Old 10-10-2018, 10:31 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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I enjoyed clubbing throughout High School and College, but I would probably look out of place in a club today, Lol. Clubbing for me back in the days wasn't about dancing at all, but socializing.

Ive never thought of dancing to be too strenuous, especially when the dance floor is jam-packed. The only move a guy can really do is fist-pump while the women is bumping&grinding on you, Lol.
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Old 10-10-2018, 10:31 PM
 
Location: El Pueblo de Nuestra Señora la Reina de los Ángeles del Río Porciúncula
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I was thinking of an "after several" dates, not as a first date.

I'm still listening to Lady Gaga "Fame Monster" and dancing sorta as I sit here on my roost in my den.

My OP refers to dancing as a means for bonding with your man or woman. Thus the CD-Relationship section for this post. It's all about bonding for a better relationship.

It's no hay problema with her dancing with other men, and I hope she won't mind me dancing with other women. The only thing that counts is who you go home with.
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Old 10-10-2018, 11:18 PM
 
Location: Middle of the ocean
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The only move a guy can really do is fist-pump while the women is bumping&grinding on you, Lol.
That's pretty much what I remember.
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Old 10-10-2018, 11:39 PM
 
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I like dancing and it’s fun and can be hot with the right person. I don’t know about clubbing at my age though.
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Old 10-11-2018, 12:06 AM
 
Location: El Pueblo de Nuestra Señora la Reina de los Ángeles del Río Porciúncula
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I enjoyed clubbing throughout High School and College, but I would probably look out of place in a club today, Lol. Clubbing for me back in the days wasn't about dancing at all, but socializing.

Ive never thought of dancing to be too strenuous, especially when the dance floor is jam-packed. The only move a guy can really do is fist-pump while the women is bumping&grinding on you, Lol.
I effed up by not going to your high school, Pineapple!
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Old 10-11-2018, 12:08 AM
 
Location: El Pueblo de Nuestra Señora la Reina de los Ángeles del Río Porciúncula
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I like dancing and it’s fun and can be hot with the right person. I don’t know about clubbing at my age though.
I want to find out.

I was shy in my 20s-30s. I fixed that. I guess I'm a late bloomer. I want it now what I missed then. My life won't be complete until I take my lady dancing at Whiskey a Go Go. Fortunately I live less than an hour's drive away.

Where ya at srjth? Fly out to LA and I'll take ya clubbing!

(Just clubbing. No social contract implied nor intended.)
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Old 10-11-2018, 12:43 AM
 
Location: Santa Monica, Ca
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I enjoyed clubbing throughout High School and College, but I would probably look out of place in a club today, Lol. Clubbing for me back in the days wasn't about dancing at all, but socializing.

Ive never thought of dancing to be too strenuous, especially when the dance floor is jam-packed. The only move a guy can really do is fist-pump while the women is bumping&grinding on you, Lol.
Why would you look out of place... you don’t look nearly your age.
( jk my friend)
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Old 10-11-2018, 01:09 AM
 
Location: California Bay Area
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I suppose I'm a little shy in the club environment, but it's mainly because I find conversation in noisy environments to be rather difficult - and I do far better with women if I can talk. I consider myself fairly average looks-wise (I don't lift) so I don't generally attract people just by being present.
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