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Maybe. There are guys out there who seem to want what they cant have. Once they get what they want, they dont particularly want it anymore. Kinda sounds like thats how this guy is. Tread softly.
It’s hard to really give solid advice on this not knowing the other side of things and how this all came to be.
I have to ask though. If you where in the way out what keeps you questioning going now?...it shouldn’t really matter much to you either way if you are already committed to moving on with yourself.
You either trust one another at this point or you don’t.
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Maybe. There are guys out there who seem to want what they cant have. Once they get what they want, they dont particularly want it anymore. Kinda sounds like thats how this guy is. Tread softly.
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As soon as you are committed to staying, the "special" treatment will stop. Ask me how I know.
These. Tell him it's too late, OP. He had his chance. He had many chances.
I mean ... you want someone who WANTS you, not someone who knew how you felt and only when you finally let him know you're not putting up with his BS anymore decides to say, "Haha, just kidding, I'm in."
Yes, I have. He made it clear we were not exclusive after about 6 months. I told him I needed to be exclusive or I would not continue to see him. All of the sudden he said ok, I want to be exclusive. I gave it a go.
How did it turn out? He was exclusive dating me BUT he was still as selfish ( with time) as he was before. It turns out, he never slept with others while dating me and he did not want me to ( for health reasons, risk of stds..). After a few months, of being "exclusive" it was clear we did not have a future together.
I wouldn't. He is "being good" to see if you'll stay around. Paradoxically, when you do, he'll figure you were just playing games and will be even less anxious about losing you as he now knows a week of sending random tests will call your bluff. IMO, if he hasn't already gotten attached in five years and only a threat has made him send a few texts and say a couple nice things, he isn't into you. I'd move on.
Guys have been in my life for a few years. I have asked him if he wants to be in a relationship before, but he said that he wants to focus on his career. Recently I told him that I need to move on and cannot see him anymore. Now suddenly he wants a relationship. He is now good at texting, at telling me he is serious, telling me that he cares, making time for me.
Has anyone been in this situation before? Is there anything that I should watch for?
Any idea is welcome.
Proof is in the pudding. My guess is, he is going to do just enough to satisfy you for now but eventually he will go back to his natural self. His intentions may be good because he is scared of losing you but ultimately his actions will truly determine how he feels. Give him a chance and see what happens.
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