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OP, you say you just never see her again, that's the only way to deal with it, and you don't want to pursue other sitting jobs besides call centers, so the answer is clear. You'll have to stay at your current job.
She used you. Whether she knew or not at the very beginning and went forward with that.
You need to focus on getting a job so that you personally feel valued. Join those free clubs/meet-up, have a regular routine and find ways to earn an income.
You need to think about how to support yourself at retirement and such.
I want to say I am so sorry you had to deal with such cruelty towards you.
That said, I think given your disability and chances of finding another line of work is so difficult, I would take the job. It seems like you are able to ignore her. Keep doing that. It will be uncomfortable at first but what is more uncomfortable, seeing her in the hallways or your empty pockets?
It the situation becomes unbearable and you feel SHE is crossing the line at work, talk to HR. I am assuming best case scenario she will ignore you back. In case she does not, you have a way out.
Tell HR that she flirts with you , makes you uncomfortable and you do not want to reciprocate. Tell them she continues to do this and you do not know what to do. They will ask you if you had a relationship with her and you are better off being honest. You will need to admit you reciprocated at one point(once) but you were were always felt like she was just teasing you. When you walk out of there the picture needs to be, she is harassing you in the workplace and you are a victim. I believe that you are, you need to make sure HR knows that.
Don't tell them you took the job knowing it could be a problem, they do not need to know that. That is not the issue.
The issue is what she is doing at that moment and how that interferes with your job TODAY. That is called sexual harassment and it is against the law in the workplace. They should take care of her, speak to her and she will need to back off or face consequences.
Don't let her bully like that or ruin you financially.
Let us know what you decide.
EXCELLENT advice here. I'm truly sorry you experienced what you did--sounds as if you were genuinely attracted and even did the smart thing by trying to avoid flirting with a co worker initially. She likely took this as a 'challenge', and once she was assured she had your full attention she was done playing her game.
Again--great advice above. Take this to HR if she starts up again. This time you know it's all just attention-seeking.
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