My gf wants me to sleep over but she snores really bad. (boyfriends, girlfriend)

[ironpony]

I've attempted to spend the night with her a couple of times, but she snores really really bad. She says her past boyfriends have said the same thing and also had trouble spending the night with her a result. Last time I was up the entire night and couldn't fall asleep.

I've also been going through insomnia problems, and have been taking medication for it, but am sensitive to noises keeping me up.

But I feel that me not wanting to is bothering her. Like she asked me if it was okay for me to spend the night with her on this weekend, and I said sure, which was two weeks ago.

However, my insomnia has gotten worse, and the medication is not doing as well as it use to, so I lost a lot of sleep this week. So I want to sleep alone on the chance that I can fall asleep better, and things have changed since two weeks ago, but it bothers her and I feel she is pressuring me.

What do you think?

[joee5]

Find a new girlfriend

[RbccL]

Tell her that. Stand up for yourself.
"I've been having a hard time sleeping this week. I already know it's difficult for me to sleep at your place, so I'll have to sleep in my own bed. Have you ever tried breathe right strips?"
If she's insulted, oh well, she's the only one who can do anything about her snoring.

Or you could drink until you pass out.

[ellie]

She needs to see a doctor. Snoring can be a symptom of serious health problems. Till then, sleep alone.

[augiedogie]

Separate bedrooms?

[Levels77]

I think this is a deal breaker.

Sleep is so important for mental health.

A lot of snoring issues are related to being overweight. Is she? Has she tried to loose weight? Has she seen a doctor?

You don't want to go your whole married life with someone who snores so loudly you can't sleep next to them.

[ironpony]

Yeah I thought if we were married we may have to have separate rooms if she is okay with that. I have no problem spending a couple of hours cuddling with her, and that's fun, but a whole night of that snoring is a lot to handle. And I don't mean to act like she is annoying when she does it, it sounds really bad and I am concerned for her and worry.

Yeah she's overweight. But she wakes up everyday and seems fine so not sure how bad it is.

[MisterShipWreck]

My girlfriend snores a little SOMETIMES. She told me I can just tap her and she will roll on her side.

Have you tried that?

[jaminhealth]

Sleep is too important, I agree with what some others are saying. I can't imagine having a bf and trying to sleep over with the snoring....no way.

[srjth]

Snoring is not always an issue of obesity. My ex snores and is not overweight. I can't sleep well with a snorer. I'd just tell her that. She should understand. She's not going to break up with you because she snores and you can't sleep with it. If you stay together, you will be sleeping separately. That's just life. I suspect lots of couples sleep separately when one snores and the other one can't sleep with a snorer. It sucks but what can you do?