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What you describe sounds almost exactly like a date I went on a few weeks ago. If you want the male perspective, the post-date breakdown starts around page 6 of this thread:
Don’t waste y’alls time by going on another date when you know you don’t feel anything. People crap on me all the time about my one and done policy on dates when I don’t feel anything but I think it is the most merciful to do when I don’t feel anything.
Except not everyone lives and dies by just one date and that's it. People have felt it on date 2, date 3, etc.
I will say if after 2-3 dates, if you don't feel it, then it's best to probably move on at that point.
I think this is where it REALLY helps to know yourself. And everyone is different. For example, are you the type of person who can develop attraction for someone with time, or are you the type of person who needs to have the sparks fly from the get go? Depending on which type of person you are, you can determine what your next move should be.
That happens, it's happened to me a few times. I can usually tell after the first date whether to continue on to second date or not, and if it's not there the first date I don't pursue any further. The few times I have done a second date, I usually regretted it and wondered why I just didn't go with my gut instinct. You can't force something that isn't there.
He was probably doing his best not to screw it up.
Sounds like a nice guy. You should give it another whirl.
Yes he was trying, I could feel that. But in the end we had nothing to say and it was a bit awkward... Well, if he asks me to go out next time I will still say yes.
There is no harm on going on a 2nd or 3rd date. If you felt "nothing" then that's likely due to something else being on your mind something about him that bothered you.
It seems like you're over analyzing the situation. Go on a 2nd and 3rd date, if you still feel "nothing" then move on.
Yes, I guess it's because he comes from the same country like my ex, and I haven't had the best impression for this country since I broke up. He's the only child, also like my ex. The similarities kind of putting me off...
Yes he was trying, I could feel that. But in the end we had nothing to say and it was a bit awkward... Well, if he asks me to go out next time I will still say yes.
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Originally Posted by lostlincoln
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Are you attracted to him?
I agree with the guy who posted they just know if it will work. I’m that same way.
Actually, give me 5 minutes and I could tell you if we would work. It’s a gift, DONT ask. Hahaha!
Of course, I get along with everyone (another gift) so over my years of experience you have to read a person.
Everyone gets a second job interview so maybe a second date can confirm a yay or nay.
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