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I guess you've got your answer.. What the son wants is more important than your health.
Proceed accordingly.
Basically, yes, he's telling you that he is more concerned with letting his son down than letting you down.
And as a parent, I kind of understand that his child has to be a priority, but your fiance does not appear to be willing to compromise on this AT ALL when a compromise could work pretty well, and he expects you to bear all the burden for this cat to roam freely. Which does NOT bode well for a long-term relationship.
That is horrible! I have allergies too! I just started on shots a few months ago and you are exactly correct! Its a huge commitment to go every week. Some weeks I miss because I get out of work late and then instead of advancing the dose, I have to go back to the last dose. And I won't even see a benefit until a full year!
There are a lot of disturbing things about what you said about. I am going to assume your fiance is a great person, and truly wants what's best for everyone.
I would talk to him, ask him to talk to the kids pediatrician on how to tell the kid the cat has to go. Maybe the pediatrician can suggest a good strategy so that the kid won't be too traumatized. Maybe a replacement fish or something that you aren't allergic too.
But even this strategy works and your fiance agrees I would seriously question how much he loves you. Is this going to be the first of several situations where he sides with his kid over you and can't come to a solution that will benefit everyone?
How old is the son? If you've been together 5 yrs, and he had the kid before you met, the kid should be able to understand that the cat is making you sick and be able to let the cat go.
Do you two live together? Your symptoms are not going to get better as long as that cat is there. And cat dander tends to stick around a really long time and get into all upholstered items.
I'm sure you already know, allergies suck! Its like always having a cold and you still have to go to work and be functional.
I am sorry you are in the situation but maybe the silver lining is that you will see what would happen should you two get married. He should treat both you and his kid like you are are a part of the same family. I just can't see a husband treating his wife that way if they shared a kid together. They would both tell the kid that the cat has to go!
Allergy shots are not a "cure", and they take months to get you any improvement. They are simply mild doses of your allergens, so that you slowly build up some resistance. They do not get you to the point you are no longer allergic. They help, that is all.
Agree with old_cold, your fiance places your importance behind the pet. Now you know, so behave accordingly.
Sure you can. The idea to see if the boy's mom would take the cat is an excellent one, provided that she is in town and has shared custody.
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Originally Posted by redplum33
You can't lock the cat in the basement.
According to the OP, the basement is the size of many houses, carpeted and has lots of light. It sounds like the same environment a condo-dwelling cat would enjoy.
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