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Just based purely on the information you've provided, you say things are getting serious and heading toward exclusivity, so it's somewhat confusing why you want to meet another woman. Do you want to be exclusive with the woman you're sleeping with, or not?
You haven't had a discussion to form an agreement of exclusivity, but since you're sleeping with her, a discussion to clarify that you're NOT exclusive would be the right thing to do.
I’m starting to get kind of serious with a girl I’ve been dating. It’s obvious she really like me and it is headed towards something exclusive and serious. We’re sleeping together and it’s been about 2 months of dating. Still no talks about being exclusive though. I’ve been in contact with another girl through a dating app that seems pretty awesome also, and I plan on meeting her, but feel a little guilt about it.
My question is on your own personal standards in the issue. Mine are you’re free to date others until it’s official and you’ve had the talk. Even if I feel a little guilty. If you’re not my GF, I can still date others. Thoughts?
Why do you claim to be getting serious, but aren't discussing it?
What you're doing doesn't sound serious at all. It sounds like you're using her as a convenience while you scope out other women to see if there's someone better.
But you put your situation on the forum....asking us to comment. You could've just asked the question straight out without putting yourself out there.
Don't ask for what you don't want.
I say it's time when I'm no longer interested in pursuing anyone else.
I put my situation to add context. I was expecting a certain level of comprehension to comment on my actual question. I did not reveal all the additional details of my relationship and situation that are relevant. You don’t know all the details, so you cant comment on my exact situation.
Just based purely on the information you've provided, you say things are getting serious and heading toward exclusivity, so it's somewhat confusing why you want to meet another woman. Do you want to be exclusive with the woman you're sleeping with, or not?
You haven't had a discussion to form an agreement of exclusivity, but since you're sleeping with her, a discussion to clarify that you're NOT exclusive would be the right thing to do.
From her side things are getting serious and her feelings are stronger than mine at this point. I do not want to be exclusive yet. Therefore I will be avoiding the exclusivity discussion. We both know we’re not exclusive. She is recently divorced. Again. Information you do not know and shouldn’t assume to know.
From her side things are getting serious and her feelings are stronger than mine at this point. I do not want to be exclusive yet. Therefore I will be avoiding the exclusivity discussion. We both know we’re not exclusive. She is recently divorced. Again. Information you do not know and shouldn’t assume to know.
I think you should tell her outright and let her make the decision whether or not to stay. You're not being genuine otherwise - you know she thinks things are "getting serious." It's time for the Talk.
From her side things are getting serious and her feelings are stronger than mine at this point. I do not want to be exclusive yet. Therefore I will be avoiding the exclusivity discussion. We both know we’re not exclusive. She is recently divorced. Again. Information you do not know and shouldn’t assume to know.
I didn't assume anything. My response was based ONLY on information you stated.
I’m starting to get kind of serious with a girl I’ve been dating. It’s obvious she really like me and it is headed towards something exclusive and serious. We’re sleeping together and it’s been about 2 months of dating. Still no talks about being exclusive though. I’ve been in contact with another girl through a dating app that seems pretty awesome also, and I plan on meeting her, but feel a little guilt about it.
My question is on your own personal standards in the issue. Mine are you’re free to date others until it’s official and you’ve had the talk. Even if I feel a little guilty. If you’re not my GF, I can still date others. Thoughts?
I don't know where the above quote came from, that someone posted earlier in the thread, but if this is the situation, it sounds like you're assuming that everyone subscribes to this practice, of having "the talk" at some point during the dating process. You're therefore assuming that until SHE raises the topic, you're free to date around.
Why don't you test your hypothesis/assumption, be informing her that you've been fishing for dates, still, via an app, and found someone who seems like a great prospect, whom you want to take out on a first date. See what happens.
The fact is, OP, that not everyone has "the talk" (and why would it be incumbent on the woman to do so, anyway? Since you seem to be wondering about the whole issue, why haven't you raised it? ), because some people simply assume that there's no one else in the picture. Yes, there are people like that out there. They assume they're in a process with you, and if things are going well, they assume the two of you are building toward something significant.
So anyway, I think you should tell her about the date you have planned, or are planning, with this new person you've found on OLD, and see how she reacts. If you don't have the guts to do that, you already have your answer as to whether you should date someone else or not.
edit: I just saw this additional post from the OP:
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From her side things are getting serious and her feelings are stronger than mine at this point. I do not want to be exclusive yet. Therefore I will be avoiding the exclusivity discussion. We both know we’re not exclusive. She is recently divorced. Again. Information you do not know and shouldn’t assume to know.
Are you sure about the bolded, or is this what you conveniently tell yourself? If it's true, and you honestly believe it to be true, tell her you're planning a first date with someone you recently found on OLD. Stand back.
Report back to us.
Also consider, that if you're not ready to be exclusive yet, maybe you should stop sleeping with her. Where do you think her "stronger than yours" feelings are coming from? THey're coming to a great extent from the intimacy.
Communication is key. Just talk to her about it. If you already know her feelings are stronger than yours, then she needs to know you're not on the same page. Otherwise you're not being honest about your intentions and that's not cool.
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), because some people simply assume that there's no one else in the picture. Yes, there are people like that out there. They assume they're in a process with you, and if things are going well, they assume the two of you are building toward something significant. 
