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Old 11-26-2018, 11:14 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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She’s actually doing you huge favor by not dating you.
Seriously.
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Old 11-26-2018, 11:16 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I’ve never got the “hots” for her till the past year..and she’s made it clear a lot that we’re just friends other then the making out thing so why should I get her out of my life just because she doesn’t want to be with me?

Isn’t that selfish on my part?
No, it's smart.

You're not being a friend either, because you're orbiting with the tiny hope that one drunken night she'll sleep with you and then you will have your chance.

This woman dates drug dealers while she has a teenage daughter in the house. IS that really someone you want in your life???

Snap out of it.
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Old 11-26-2018, 11:16 PM
 
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I’ve never got the “hots” for her till the past year..and she’s made it clear a lot that we’re just friends other then the making out thing so why should I get her out of my life just because she doesn’t want to be with me?

Isn’t that selfish on my part?
No. It’s self-preservation. You don’t owe her your pain. You owe it to yourself to spare it of yourself.
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Old 11-26-2018, 11:16 PM
 
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Time to let go dude and move on. She’s actually doing you huge favor by not dating you. She’s a total mess.
I agree with the dating part but breaking off a friendship just because she doesn’t want to date me seems petty no?
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Old 11-26-2018, 11:18 PM
 
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No, it's smart.

You're not being a friend either, because you're orbiting with the tiny hope that one drunken night she'll sleep with you and then you will have your chance.

This woman dates drug dealers while she has a teenage daughter in the house. IS that really someone you want in your life???

Snap out of it.
She never dated him it was a few casual dates and he stalked her she said..and claims she didn’t know he was a drug dealer

And it’s really not orbiting at this point..I just feel it’s petty to break off a friendship just because she doesn’t want to be with me..
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Old 11-26-2018, 11:21 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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She never dated him it was a few casual dates and he stalked her she said..and claims she didn’t know he was a drug dealer

And it’s really not orbiting at this point..I just feel it’s petty to break off a friendship just because she doesn’t want to be with me..
That wouldn't be why you do it, JBT.

Why do you insist on making excuses for her bad choices? That's not a good choice for YOU.
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Old 11-26-2018, 11:22 PM
 
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That wouldn't be why you do it, JBT.

Why do you insist on making excuses for her bad choices? That's not a good choice for YOU.
Do you break off friendships with people you care about just for making bad choices?
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Old 11-26-2018, 11:24 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Do you break off friendships with people you care about just for making bad choices?
I have, yes.

When people make choices that put themselves or people in their care in danger, I would not want them in my life. You're not being a hero by staying around. You're being a fool.

You're not trying to be a friend anyway. The fact that you can't get this concept explains so much about why you're unsuccessful with relationships.
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Old 11-26-2018, 11:25 PM
 
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Do you break off friendships with people you care about just for making bad choices?
I break them off if I stand to be hurt by them.
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Old 11-26-2018, 11:25 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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I agree with the dating part but breaking off a friendship just because she doesn’t want to date me seems petty no?
You’re so deep in the friendzone, she would probably send you nudes to get your approval before sending them off to other guys. No way you could handle this friendship.
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