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I was on plane and had the worst turbulence. I’m generally a nervous flyer already so I was really scared.. I couldn’t think straight when scared, so I texted and telling him that I was scared..
He texted back quickly, asked where I was headed and reassured me I’ll be ok.. his tone did calmed me down a lot.. i thanked him and he said “ any time” and suggested I should sleep or talk to my friend about something fun.. I texted him telling him I landed and he said “good one” then we ended like that. I didn’t ask about his sick cat( not sure if I should) .. we didn’t ask each other about how are you doing..
I wasn’t sure what I wanted to achieve by contacting him, before I thought I wanted to apologize since a lot people think that I ghosted him, but I don’t know if it’s necessary now.. and if it’s due to his lose of interest then I wanted to know what went wrong..
I broke the silence.. what now? Go back to no contacting? I personally would want to keep him as a friend...
People get into a situation with someone else. Complain and "ask for help." Folks give advice (which impossible to do considering they're not in the situation themselves.) The people don't take the advice, go back to the stupidity. Then complain again. What?
Do they not see how crazy this can look? After a certain point you just lose sympathy for some people and don't want to hear it anymore. You're doing this to yourself, OP.
I wasn’t sure what I wanted to achieve by contacting him, before I thought I wanted to apologize since a lot people think that I ghosted him, but I don’t know if it’s necessary now..
No. That ship has already sailed.
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and if it’s due to his lose of interest then I wanted to know what went wrong..
You need to be okay with the possibly that you won't ever find out the answer. You can't force him to tell you. Just let it go.
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I broke the silence.. what now? Go back to no contacting? I personally would want to keep him as a friend...
Be honest with yourself... if you only wanted to be "friends" then you wouldn't still be concerned with what went wrong between you and him.
People get into a situation with someone else. Complain and "ask for help." Folks give advice (which impossible to do considering they're not in the situation themselves.) The people don't take the advice, go back to the stupidity. Then complain again. What?
Do they not see how crazy this can look? After a certain point you just lose sympathy for some people and don't want to hear it anymore. You're doing this to yourself, OP.
I don’t need any sympathy, not asking for one either. And I didn’t force anyone to “ listen to it”, you have the option to not read or reply.
Why oh why do women do this...keep pestering a man who is so obviously not interested...why why why
Why is it so hard to realize if a man is into you there is NO MISTAKING IT. They are like barnacles, you cannot pry them loose.
Why can you not accept that he is not into you why.
Now you look pathetically desperate to him.
(women drive me nuts)
(I am a woman)
Actually I do feel better. The fact he texted me back made me feel that I was not hated or despised which was a relief. And his texts helped me a great deal during the flight. It’s weird I’ve been having fears for flying for years, I tried to talk to different people including pilots to get over the fear in no vail. His texts at the most scary moment really worked for me. He told me how airplane works in turbulences and reassured me I’ll be ok.
I don’t care if I looked pathetically desperate, He’s the right person to talk to at that moment.
People who read my previous post know that I met someone who laid out the relationship card early on in dating, but things drastically went south after sex. I went home after having sex, He didn’t text to check on me. When I texted, he said he felt asleep, and said that he “had fun.” It was like a big “ouch” when I heard those two words...I didn’t say anything back. The next day, around evening time, he texted saying he had a rough day... I was still emotionally traumatized from how he acted after sex, so I still didn’t text anything back. Then he never text me again after that. So I don’t know if technically I ghosted him?
Anyway, after 10 more days of MIA, thanksgiving came around, I felt I was ready to talk about the breakup, so i reached out and texted” happy thanksgiving”. He never replied.. was it justifiable for him to do that? Or am being ghosted?
I’m ready to move on, I feel like I just need a closure. It bugs me that we never said anything.. I want to send a last message to politely just say goodbye. It just for my own emotional health..in the last message, I’ll just honestly say I’m bothered that we never said goodbyes, and wish him the best..
Also, the way we chatted was through a chatting app, so there’s a small chance he’s not using the app and didn’t see that I texted him( although very unlikely) so I decided to text him over the phone to make sure he sees it. (We never texted each other over the phone before) would this be too intrusive?
Thoughts?
So he texted saying he had a rough day and you still waited 10 days to respond even though you were emotionally traumatized? Sorry, you would have been deleted after 24 hours. Its a new world with everything moving at a fast clip so no you dont get to sashay whenever you feel like it. Or maybe you can. Honey the trains will have left the building with you standing there all alone except for the drunk fool who wants your number. Lesson learned.
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