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I would be thinking "why can't I find that and why is it going to someone who does not recognize such a blessing [...] at the time I was attracting workaholics or too busy women .
OP, what are you doing to meet women? What's your strategy? As you can see from your friend's experience, there are plenty of women out there that want a close relationship. You just need to make more effort to get out and mingle, and find them.
But also, this is a very good point to keep in mind:
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Plus, the OP wants a LONER, who presumably wants to do things ALONE for much of the time. Perhaps I am missing what it means to be a loner, but as someone who is only mildly introverted, I would not want to spend every minute of my free time with someone I am dating. I need my ALONE time. During that time, I would do stuff for me that I enjoy like go to the gym or walk for exercise (which I like to do ALONE), perhaps engage in some other hobbies that are my own, keep up with my other friends, and just decompress while watching TV shows alone.
What. you're asking for, OP, is: a loner who doesn't want to be alone. A loner, who's ok with being glued at the hip to an SO.
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I am totally open to dating the opposite type of men. As I said, I can't recall any ever being attracted to me, except the one I mentioned here. And he's a cheater, so that's part of why I'm not attracted to him.
It took me until my early 30s to realize that the only way to handle infidelity is to break up with them immediately and never go back. I don't give second chances since then.
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ladies determine 100% if there is a date to begin with....and also a second date..... and how fast it initially progresses..
That's just silly. I'm just an average guy and in this year's OLD matched first dates it was MY choice to not pursue a second date about half the time, although many of those dates may have agreed. Only a loser would pursue EVERY date to a second date.
It's just you, something that you do or who you are, that turns it into them always making the decision, not you.
Also, it stands to reason that as you get older and more experienced in relationships, that you become more successful. Why are we here on Earth if not to improve our lives and gain wisdom as we get older? So many with this type of problem may find it gets better with time as they get better at relationships.
Anybody who is successful in relationships is either lucky or has learned to just keep on walking even when your chest has an gaping hole gushing blood where your heart used to be.
because its sooooo much easier for a lady to attract attention or get a date.....all she has to do is smile....and men come running.....
with a guy....if he tries to initiate a first contact....even a hello....depending on her mood.....he is a creep...
ladies determine 100% if there is a date to begin with....and also a second date..... and how fast it initially progresses..
of course there are going to be more guys.... as loners...
This is so false it's funny.
You're aware that women get rejected as well, right?
You're aware that women get rejected as well, right?
I do think there are just as many lonely females as there are lonely males. I really do. I know there are. I just think that lonely males gather more on the internet to complain about it, because they have less of a support system to vent to in real life.
It took me until my early 30s to realize that the only way to handle infidelity is to break up with them immediately and never go back. I don't give second chances since then.
He was never my boyfriend and I was never interested in him and never will be, so it's not an issue for me. It's an issue for his girlfriend! lol
Anyway, my point was that he's the only very social male that has ever expressed interest in me.
Anybody who is successful in relationships is either lucky or has learned to just keep on walking even when your chest has an gaping hole gushing blood where your heart used to be.
This is precisely why I don't and won't do it. The unbidden end of a romantic relationship is one of the most traumatic thing a person can go through, and I've seen nothing to convince me it's worth that amount of pain.
This is precisely why I don't and won't do it. The unbidden end of a romantic relationship is one of the most traumatic thing a person can go through, and I've seen nothing to convince me it's worth that amount of pain.
Yeah going thru a break up is hard, but it's also hard being alone and unloved. I think there are people who cope better with being alone than others. I think people who cope better are able to rationalize being alone better than those who can't. They are also better at finding ways to self-soothe.
Yeah going thru a break up is hard, but it's also hard being alone and unloved. I think there are people who cope better with being alone than others. I think people who cope better are able to rationalize being alone better than those who can't. They are also better at finding ways to self-soothe.
I think those that do well with being alone probably had been through the trials and tribulations of marriage. Maybe once, twice, or thrice. By that time, they are too damaged to really have loneliness creep in. At this pointed, they are psychologically changed.
If they aren't damaged, then they simply got tired of looking at the same face over and over again or just preferred their own space.
Those who have years long dry spells are likely to be on the crunch to find someone.
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