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Yeah, I had an older guy do that, even took off his shirt and sent me a pic, he wasn't even in that good of shape, but that wasn't the point, I didn't want someone 15 years older than me.
Hahaha. Shirtless geezer, and you didn't swoon. At least he didn't send one of those other photos.
Great post. Older men who are overly confident in their own looks always feel the need to bash the women of their own age group and that simply is not impressive. Definitely does not make them more attractive then men our own age.
You’ve just generalized all older men who are confident with themselves. How can you possibly know the mindset or mentality of such a large and diverse group of people? And should self-confidence wane as one ages? Are older people of less value than younger? I’d like to know. I’m 44, so I’d like to know what I have to look forward to as I get older.
I have always found that the men who are the MOST critical of women's looks/fitness/behavior are the ones who have the least to offer as a potential partners.
Critical, judgmental people come in all shapes, sizes, ages, genders, etc., so it’s just a human thing. We all desire certain traits in others; we all like what we like; and we all want what we want — regardless of whatever we do or don’t bring to the table.
You’ve just generalized all older men who are confident with themselves. How can you possibly know the mindset or mentality of such a large and diverse group of people? And should self-confidence wane as one ages? Are older people of less value than younger? I’d like to know. I’m 44, so I’d like to know what I have to look forward to as I get older.
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Originally Posted by AnthonyJ34
Critical, judgmental people come in all shapes, sizes, ages, genders, etc., so it’s just a human thing. We all desire certain traits in others; we all like what we like; and we all want what we want — regardless of whatever we do or don’t bring to the table.
I am specifically referring to older men who overestimate THEIR looks/date-worthiness while criticizing the looks/date-worthiness of the women of their own age group.
MOST women in our 20s and 30s are not truly interested in men in their 40s/50s/60s and beyond. We just aren't. Older men have to BUY access to younger women. However older men will gladly continue to spend LOTS and LOTS of money, jump through all sorts of hoops and have all manner of games played for the privilege of having a younger woman on their arm.
I am specifically referring to older men who overestimate THEIR looks/date-worthiness while criticizing the looks/date-worthiness of the women of their own age group.
MOST women in our 20s and 30s are not truly interested in men in their 40s/50s/60s and beyond. We just aren't. Older men have to BUY access to younger women. However older men will gladly continue to spend LOTS and LOTS of money, jump through all sorts of hoops and have all manner of games played for the privilege of having a younger woman on their arm.
SOME guys will do all of that. In real life most couples you see out and about tend to be more matched in age in general.
I am specifically referring to older men who overestimate THEIR looks/date-worthiness while criticizing the looks/date-worthiness of the women of their own age group.
MOST women in our 20s and 30s are not truly interested in men in their 40s/50s/60s and beyond. We just aren't. Older men have to BUY access to younger women. However older men will gladly continue to spend LOTS and LOTS of money, jump through all sorts of hoops and have all manner of games played for the privilege of having a younger woman on their arm.
But you don’t speak for most women. Do you realize how many women you are professing to represent when you use the word “most”? How many women are in their 20s/30s in the world? Or even in a specific country or state? You know first hand what most of those women want in a partner? How could anyone know that? What you say may be true for those in your social circle or for specific people whom you’ve read or heard about, but that doesn’t necessarily prove the general statement. Men and women both are varied and like and/or prefer many different things when it comes to romantic interests. And when it comes to looks, I bet both genders err on the side of overestimating themselves. I doubt women are immune from doing that.
Well, we are women, and we were that age.... I think it is not putting oneself out there too much to say most women in their 20s aren't interested in men in their 40s. Sure, it can happen, but it's not the norm.
Honestly, when I was 20 and some 40 year old guy would hit on me or my friends we were pretty grossed out. Forty seemed OLD.
Heck, my stepdaughter went "ewwww he is old" when we suggested she may want to date my nephew who is 4 years older than her. She is only 19, so those 4 years seem like a lot.
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You made the post. So one would think you're part of the topic.
Yep.
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I have always found that the men who are the MOST critical of women's looks/fitness/behavior are the ones who have the least to offer as a potential partners.
I mean, I do... but that's not really related to what I was saying. I don't actually care if a guy is overweight. I've known heavier people who worked out and exercised, and I don't find them unattractive. It's a diet and lifestyle issue, not a physical appearance issue. As long as a guy is taking care of himself well, I'm okay with whatever. Some people have different metabolisms and don't lose weight as easily, and I understand that.
a pretty face don't mean a pretty heart...I learned that right from the start...
no one is perfect....
a foundation of a successful relationship is built on trust...friendship...a good man will bring out the best qualities of his woman..... and make her feel good about herself..
chemistry between two people is the true glue of a relationship.... not superficial looks
you can have the best of everything...houses cars....etc....but you don't really enjoy them if you are in a bad relationship..
id rather enjoy what I have with who im with …
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