Living in someone else’s home and not feeling like it is your home. (marriage, girls)
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At the end of the day LowonLuck, you keep ending up in this same situation with a multitude of different guys.
Either your picker is non existent, or you are unreasonable. As in most cases, it is normally a combination of factors.
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Well I have ocd and a perfectionist so my rigid way of doing things has benefited me substantially. Very rarely have I found someone that has a better way of doing things. Granted I am all for listening but he brings nothing of substance to the discussion
Considering the string of failed relationships you've had, I find it hard to believe that your rigid way of doing things has benefited you substantially. I also doubt that you're "all for listening". In fact, I would strongly suspect that during most conversations, if the other person starts to state an opinion contrary to your own, you immediately tune them out.
At the end of the day LowonLuck, you keep ending up in this same situation with a multitude of different guys.
Either your picker is non existent, or you are unreasonable. As in most cases, it is normally a combination of factors.
Agreed. I am wondering if this is the same super hit Religious guy who wanted to monitor her texts & stood for her outside the bathroom to make sure she wasn't calling or texting anyone in it.
there's been a lot, and I have gotten them confused. Maybe I even missed one since that one.
But honestly, LOL, you don't sound like you need a man. Apparently your life is straight & you feel your way has gotten you taken care of. What's the man for? Why the desire to have a relationship or get married? You don't seem to be an emotionally invested person & you mentioned being indifferent to sex. Do you just want a boyfriend & husband so you can say you have one? Is it an ego deal because many around you are married, and you feel you deserve it too?
It seems you need a maid, or houseboy. Someone who can clean & do things around the house. But since it's business, there won't be the relationship drama that comes with it. You would be the guy's employer, and then you can have everything your way & the maid or houseboy would accept that, being a business.
Forget relationships & exposing your children to this kind of dysfunction. Get a house-helper & call it a say. After you get rid of this current guy you're with.
Have you ever moved into a home your significant other owns? How did you make it feel like it was your home?
My fiancé walks around constantly harping on the fact that this is my house, my responsibility and not his home. Today he actually said “if this is my home, the rules would be different”.
This is a common issue I have found. I use the phrase “our home” when I speak. I don’t know how to make him feel better. It has been almost 4 years.
Yeah...no. Why haven't you ended things yet? I'd have been done with this arrangement long ago. That statement right there signals clear problems that need to be evaluated.
And unless y'all are married, I wouldn't be into the whole this idea that it's his home, too. He's not invested. I don't know why you're playing into this fantasy that he wants to be a family in your "shared" home. He's just buying time until a better arrangement comes along.
Yeah...no. Why haven't you ended things yet? I'd have been done with this arrangement long ago. That statement right there signals clear problems that need to be evaluated.
And unless y'all are married, I wouldn't be into the whole this idea that it's his home, too. He's not invested. I don't know why you're playing into this fantasy that he wants to be a family in your "shared" home. He's just buying time until a better arrangement comes along.
Yeah, if I was still wondering, the morning after he high-speed bailed out of the car with my child witnessing the drama, he would have had his bags on the sidewalk. Just a note: “Come get the rest of yours stuff with the cops”.
Have you ever moved into a home your significant other owns? How did you make it feel like it was your home?
My fiancé walks around constantly harping on the fact that this is my house, my responsibility and not his home. Today he actually said “if this is my home, the rules would be different”.
This is a common issue I have found. I use the phrase “our home” when I speak. I don’t know how to make him feel better. It has been almost 4 years.
You posted this a couple of months ago:
My fiancé and I have been together since April 2016, so over 2 years. Plenty of time to develop a trust in regards to money.
Not anywhere near 4 years.
You are treating him like you are his mommy. And he's acting like your spoiled adult kid. And you wonder why he doesnt feel like it not his home? Because its not.
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