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But you have to admit, there is a case of being too old to date an 18 year old. Like 30 is weird, 25 is weird and I think 22 is sketchy. I mean if you can justify 18 and 21, can you justify this?
OK do you know why 30 is weird, in the cases where it even is?
It's because it is expected that a 30 year old is in a different stage of life than an 18 year old. An 18 year old for instance might have some right to a bit more freedom and space to grow up and find themselves, before committing to the obligations and commitments that older adults usually deal with. A 30 year old who is on the same page as an 18 year old is considered to be almost...developmentally stunted. A problematic person, in a sense, since if they are not more mature than that at 30, will they ever get there?
It isn't about the numbers, it's about the people.
The main issue is that an 18 year old has not fully matured or grown up enough to really know who they are or what they need and want. In fact, it is a hazard for the older person too, if they expect that 18 year old to continue to be the same as they were when they met. They won't, they will change and grow. You don't get to freeze that person in time as they were at 18.
But a 21 year old isn't there yet either, nor a 22 year old. A 25 year old is on the cusp of it. A 30 year old should be substantially formed as more or less who they are and will continue to be, at least in the most significant and important ways.
And a smooth predator could deceive and use a more naive person who is their own age. It isn't the age gap that creates this problem. It's what is going on in the brains of these people.
Why is 22 more sketchy than 21 dating an 18 year old? I think your logic is bizarre.
But you have to admit, there is a case of being too old to date an 18 year old. Like 30 is weird, 25 is weird and I think 22 is sketchy. I mean if you can justify 18 and 21, can you justify this?
If you can’t see the difference between a 30 year old (or even a 25 year old) dating an 18 year old and a 21 year old dating an 18 year old, then you deserve to get your news and info from Twitter.
If you can’t see the difference between a 30 year old (or even a 25 year old) dating an 18 year old and a 21 year old dating an 18 year old, then you deserve to get your news and info from Twitter.
I was wondering, how is it viewed for an 18 year old to date a 21 year old? Is it considered common or fine? Is the age gap too much?
I was told this:
"i feel like this is a weak answer that’s said too much because it sounds obvious at surface level, but it isn’t really that valid. people don’t magically become more mature at 18 just because they’re legally adults. they’re still in the teenage mindset and either a senior in high school or a freshman in college. if you’re 21, you’re a junior/senior in college and decently separated from a teen mindset by then. by that age your age group is more so people in their early 20s (20-23) and not late teenagers (17-19). the gap in life stages makes it weird. 3 year age gaps don’t really mean much at all when you’re past your mid-late 20s, but when you’re young, it matters because of how rapidly things are changing. a 26 and 29 year old are probably doing and experiencing the same general things with their life compared to an 18 year old high school senior/college freshman and a 21 year old approaching the end of their college years"
So I was wondering, is 18 and 21 weird or not?
When I was 17 I dated a 21 year old. Of course that was 100 years ago, lol. But at the time I didn't think it was weird at all.
In what situation is ok for a 21 year old to date an 18 year old senior based on a prexisting relationship?
To clarify, I'm talking about continuing a relationship that started in HS and one that didn't start as freshmen/senior as that's kinda weird. Are there any ways it could continue an already existing relationship is what I'm asking
Why wouldn't you? In what situation isn't it ok for a 21-year-old to date an 18-year-old HS senior?
Why do we keep getting questions like this?
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In what situation is ok for a 21 year old to date an 18 year old senior based on a prexisting relationship?
