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"Good to see you" is what you say to people when you meet them again, even electronically. You don't even have to mean it. Chill out.
But she added, "I hope to hear from you again soon.". That's completely unnecessary, for politeness.
Also note, that he didn't ask about the couple together, but only about the wife.
OP, I wouldn't worry about it at this point. If her behavior changes, or if she suddenly starts leaving the house to run more errands than she had done previously, you might have cause for some concern, but don't get too paranoid. You can end up imagining behavioral changes that aren't there, or exaggerating small things into something that fits the scenario you've conjured up.
In her shoes, I would have answered the email along the lines of,, "K12144 and I are doing great. He's made some improvements to XYZ on the farm, and we had a wonderful vacation tgether last year, thank you for inquiring. I hope you're well. Cordially, Ms. K12144"
I agree with Ruth and note anything out of the ordinary - her losing weight, exercising when she doesn’t like exercising, eating habits, staying up late, etc.
At this point I wouldn’t jump to conclusions, but you probably already have.
I love CD threads. While OP being in his wife’s email MAY be AN issue, it’s certainly not THE issue here. And if it is indeed an issue that is something he’ll have to address alongside his concerns over his wife’s email reply to the former tenant. With that said, and without knowing the former tenant or reading the note he wrote sending a picture is a bit weird. Had they become close friends during his stay maybe that would be different, but OP said this is not the case.
My guess is he’s probing the lines and gauging interest. That’s not the concern though: guys do that all the time. The only one you should worry about OP is if she seems to be reciprocating interest.
Now this may be a little arbitrary but the form of correspondence to me is relevant. She got a letter with an email address. She had to deliberately reply, using an entirely different form of media. It’s not like she got a note on messenger and had a quick conversation getting caught up. She got an email address in a letter from a guy who knew she’s married and addressed it to her and not them and included a pic, AND she had to take deliberate steps to reply. Not like a short “hey I’m fine how are you?” Like what may be reasonable on some IM. And she threw in the “hope to hear from you again.”
I’m not saying she’s interested, or that OP needs to be concerned. I just think the dismissiveness to his concern and counter accusations directed toward him for being in his wife’s email undermine the validity of his question/concern. It’s a legitimate question. Responses like “chill out” add no value.
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I love CD threads. While OP being in his wife’s email MAY be AN issue, it’s certainly not THE issue here.
Totally disagree. His being snoopy (since when is spying on a spouse ok in any way?) makes him sounds like a distrustful and insecure dude, which is totally the issue.
Op, why don't you talk to her about it instead of asking strangers?
It already seems like you have your mind made up so I don't know why you asked anyway. You're a grown man and you should be able to handle your relationship, yourself.
It's pretty innocent, but my first thought is why didn't she mention it to you? Are you jealous by nature? You sound like it.
Me? I always mention stuff like this to my husband, just because it is better to know up front then to run across something, no matter how innocent.
But we are not jealous. My husband came home and told me about a group of women flirting outrageously, and told him when an ex came sniffing around.
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