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We've been dating for about 9 months. I'm 31 and he's 30.
Since the beginning, he claims to have a low sex drive and says that he's at his limit on the amount of times we have sex per week (2-3 times during a good week). He'll also sometimes regret having sex after we've had it and tell me.
He doesn't hide the fact that he watches porn and masturbates to it. Although I don't know how often he does it.
Other than that he tells me that he loves me all the time.
Do I need to accept that he's just not that attracted to me even though maybe he does love me?
I'm just going to tell you, coming from someone who is in a low sex relationship- it will only get worse. If you can't live with that, I would cut it off now.
If I were to EVER do it again, I'd pay attention to early signs and get out before it gets too deep.
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Aren't you also the person that said in another forum he goes out with his friend but says he is too sick to see you? Why are you putting yourself through this?
I'm just going to tell you, coming from someone who is in a low sex relationship- it will only get worse. If you can't live with that, I would cut it off now.
If I were to EVER do it again, I'd pay attention to early signs and get out before it gets too deep.
This times a hundred! You don't need to make excuses for him or for you or feel like it's your fault. Just chalk it up to incompatibility. Don't try to act like it's not important - women especially have been taught that sex doesn't matter to them, just the guy. If you're not happy move on.
If you're used to 20-25x a month, then 2-3x a week is barely half of that, so you're not satisfied.
I can definitely relate to her, as 20 years ago I used to consider 3-4x a week a frustrating failure. Fun times
You have to take into consideration the kind of sex. 2-3x a week of great sex, where you take your time, foreplay and postplay. Is a lot different to 2-3 times of wham bam thank you ma'am....i'd be frustrated.
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I think that it's funny that women are ready end relationships over low amounts of sex and nobody bats an eye. When men do it they are selfish or only wanted sex.
I don't think men are selfish for ending a relationship because of sex. Sexual incompatibility is a huge source of frustration for a lot of couples. I can understand there will be ebbs and flows during the course of a marriage especially when you throw kids in the mix. But when it happens early in a relationship, its a clear sign you shouldn't be together.
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You have to take into consideration the kind of sex. 2-3x a week of great sex, where you take your time, foreplay and postplay. Is a lot different to 2-3 times of wham bam thank you ma'am....i'd be frustrated.
I don't think men are selfish for ending a relationship because of sex. Sexual incompatibility is a huge source of frustration for a lot of couples. I can understand there will be ebbs and flows during the course of a marriage especially when you throw kids in the mix. But when it happens early in a relationship, its a clear sign you shouldn't be together.
But..it's not even about the number of times they are having sex. And it's not ebb and flow & they aren't married. They are dating and instead of having sex with her, he watches porn. On top of that, he tells her he R E G R E T S having sex with her? In what universe is that Ok in a 9 month old relationship?
But..it's not even about the number of times they are having sex. And it's not ebb and flow & they aren't married. They are dating and instead of having sex with her, he watches porn. On top of that, he tells her he R E G R E T S having sex with her? In what universe is that Ok in a 9 month old relationship?
I agree and i touched on that in my earlier comments, these were just responses to the comments quoted.
It will probably only get worse with time & age as the relationship continues. Have an open and honest conversation with him and then the two of you can decide whether to part ways or work on the issues.
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