Thinking about my ex....want to send her an apology text... (mature, feeling)
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What's wrong with sending it at midnight? I was at our place and wanted to send the message because it felt more natural since I was already there.
Listen, I'm going to explain what her side could be. She was madly in love with you, she wanted to marry you, you were mean to her and broke her heart. She goes through a period of mourning, anger and depression. She tries to get over you, but it's really hard. She finally does (removes you and your family/friends from social media).
Now she's in bed (because it's midnight) and out of the blue she gets a text from you. The text is questionable because it's late and you are at the place you two used to go to together. What is she supposed to think?
Now she's up all night stressed out. What does he want? Why is he texting me so late and only asking if I've been back to that restaurant? Is he drunk? Is he going to contact me further?
OR....I have moved on and am with someone new. What does he want? Why is he texting me so late and only asking if I've been back to that restaurant? Is he going to contact me further?
Your text was selfish and only about you. If you really wanted to apologize and you absolutely insist on it (because you probably should have just left her alone), you would have waited until a decent hour and said something like: " I was at restaurant X last night and thought about us. I just wanted to say I am really sorry about how things ended and how I treated you. I hope you have found happiness (or something like that).
That doesn’t mean I have to contact them. Just because you have a thought doesn’t mean you have act on it.
I wonder if he would have texted her if she hadn't unfollowed him. Some some people might not want someone, but that doesn't mean they want them to move on. Remember our place? Don't forget about me, don't forget about me!
Listen, I'm going to explain what her side could be. She was madly in love with you, she wanted to marry you, you were mean to her and broke her heart. She goes through a period of mourning, anger and depression. She tries to get over you, but it's really hard. She finally does (removes you and your family/friends from social media).
Now she's in bed (because it's midnight) and out of the blue she gets a text from you. The text is questionable because it's late and you are at the place you two used to go to together. What is she supposed to think?
Now she's up all night stressed out. What does he want? Why is he texting me so late and only asking if I've been back to that restaurant? Is he drunk? Is he going to contact me further?
OR....I have moved on and am with someone new. What does he want? Why is he texting me so late and only asking if I've been back to that restaurant? Is he going to contact me further?
Your text was selfish and only about you. If you really wanted to apologize and you absolutely insist on it (because you probably should have just left her alone), you would have waited until a decent hour and said something like: " I was at restaurant X last night and thought about us. I just wanted to say I am really sorry about how things ended and how I treated you. I hope you have found happiness (or something like that).
So you believe that I'm not really trying to apologize is what you're saying?
So you believe that I'm not really trying to apologize is what you're saying?
I think most of us believe you were trying to do more than merely apologize.
You were trying to plant a seed of regret in her, and manipulate her into thinking about you too. Tamitrail is right that the timing of your message gives off that impression.
I agree with E-twist that it hurt your ego for her to unfollow you, so you made sure she thought about you one more time.
So it's almost midnight where I'm at. I'm out and I'm at this restaurant and it's making me think of her. This place used to be our spot-it's where we always came, it's where we reconciled when we broke up so it's kind of sentimental.
To give a little background we broke up in October of 2017. We loved a lot and wanted to get married but things just weren't working out. In the spring of 2018 she wanted to reconcile and I was pretty cold and wishy washy I admit. Eventually I got angry and told her to move on. We haven't spoken since May 2018. I had pictures of us still up from a wedding where we were really happy and very lovey dovey in the pictures. I removed them from my social media. A few weeks ago she unfollowed me, my friends, and family. So now this brings me here.
I just sent her a text saying, "Have you been to the *insert name of restaurant recently at all?". Once/if she responds I want to send an apology stating how I've been feeling guilty about how I ended things, explain that I still had resentment, apologize for this being out of the blue, and then end the text saying I just want to apologize that's my only intention.
Thoughts?
Can you be more of a (fill in the blank) ?
You told her to move on in an angry tone and she did.
Now you want to apologize some eight months later?!
Take your own advice and move on.
Don’t you dare try to toy with her emotions again. She deserves better than a wishy washy (fill in the blank)!
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