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so me and my ex broke up for two months i tried the no contact and stuff, but it created animosity and tension on both sides. Keep in mind we are in a tight knit program and practically live next to each other. We will be seeing each other for a whole year and we have same friends. She wants to be friends and I don't know about me.
Obviously there is still feelings on both sides. On her end she is going through family death, upset about the things i did or did not do. I did the no contact for awhile and that sucked. From my end I want her back. For now I just want us to be cool with each other, but I am afraid to get attached emotionally so I am in a weird spot. we all have same friends and this program isn't very big. I don't know what to do.
You have no choice but to learn to coexist and get along. If you want her back and she doesn't want you than you have to keep your distance, don't offer to be her confidant, you will end up feeling like she used you. Don't do silly things like try to make her jealous or say anything mean spirited. Next time don't s*** where you eat.
I tried to be friends with my ex-wife - but she was not interested. She claimed that all her friends claimed that she could not be friends with an ex-husband. Once I got remarried, though - she cut off all contact. Before that, we did talk sometimes....
Ex's, as in Ex-girlfriends hardly matter. Most of us have had many and we were often as lousy a partner as they were, or worse. What is most important is where children are involved. Both of you will remain parents as long as you are alive and it is best if you both remain united about their welfare.
Yeah I don't know im in a really weird spot. On my end feelings start creeping up again. I feel like she says one thing but then acts another way. As in oh we can't be together I have all this stuff going on then she says I am still upset with you for this. Before hand she said this won't work out cause of this and that she is being smart about this decision, it is for the best. Then later on she was thinking about getting back together. So I feel like girls based decisions on their emotions. What feels right at the time. What do you think?
Last edited by weirdspot12; 02-02-2019 at 06:38 AM..
Just gut it out- and never date inside any kind of tight circle (work, friends, clubs, etc)
Obviously you can’t make this a strict rule. I would say “try not to” date in tight circles. Definitely not work. I don’t know what dating in “clubs” means. Although many times you may end up dating mutual friends. That is sometimes unavoidable.
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