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professorsenator · 04-09-2008, 10:24 AM

Her posts are incomplete and syntax is a real problem, but here's what I've been able to discern: she's a 37 year old woman with 3 kids living with a guy. They've been together 2 years. She has found out that he had not informed his ex-girlfriends -- or wives, it's unclear from her posts -- of her existence (implied information: he's still in close contact with his two ex's). One of the ex's has told her that he was still sleeping with the ex. The OP thinks this is probably true, and she thinks he was sleeping with the other ex, too. He professes his love, trustworthiness, etc. Leaving him would be difficult, the kids like him, she wants to be loved, and the sex is good. But she doesn't know what to do.

Is this an accurate distillation of the situation, Christy Brown? (BTW, I think people would be more helpful if your posts provided more contextual information and were corrected for the multiple syntax errors that obscure your thoughts)

Also, this thread seems to have been started in another forum and bounced to Relationships. Is Christy Brown aware of this? What forum was it in?

wisconsin woman · 04-09-2008, 10:27 AM

Nothing wrong with ex's being friends, of course depending on the reason for the split up. Im still friends with mine, and nothing comes between the father of my kids and my friendships. Its better for the kids too, to see the positive there can be just because youre not still married to them anymore. Heck I have a friend in Seattle who lives in the same house as BOTH her ex husbands (one of them owns that house) and in fact, both the guys work together as partners at the same job. That might be a little much for me, but it happens.

Drover · 04-09-2008, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by professorsenator

Also, this thread seems to have been started in another forum and bounced to Relationships. Is Christy Brown aware of this? What forum was it in?

It was in the Chicago forum.

Ladywithafan · 04-09-2008, 10:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Christy Brown

I'm 37 with 3 kids. He has moved in. It is a little more harder then just moving on. My kids love him. I feel I'm in love. For the frist time. Is it because we have great sex? What is love. I'm so tired of the Snow White Story's. Or am I just jealoues.

Go read my "how women bond through sex" thread.

flindras · 04-09-2008, 10:36 AM

Your kids should not go through becoming attached to someone who may not last. Very bad for them.

miu · 04-09-2008, 10:43 AM

Christy - Find a new man, and one that is not sleeping with his ex-girlfriends. Don't let him move into your place so quickly.

lionking · 04-09-2008, 11:05 AM

lol.........well think of this scenerio.

"honey,I'm going out for the night to hang out with my ex".

Response;"ok dear,see you when you get home"

right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

aragx6 · 04-11-2008, 10:04 AM

Yeah it was in the Chicago forum and I moved it here. I left a redirect, but on the chance she didn't see it, i went ahead and sent her a DM letting her know where it had found a home and that there were people here who can offer advice and help.

cpg35223 · 04-11-2008, 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Christy Brown

Please give me help. I'm a honest person. I'm a lover not a fighter. He beleaves different.
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Hey, unless you leave town, your universe is remarkably small. The circle of friends and acquaintances will all feel uncomfortable after the two of you split and, if you have a particularly acrimonious breakup, they'll avoid you entirely for a while.

Besides, you never know in what we your ex will enter your life again. Better to be gracious and not burn bridges, for you don't know how it will come back to bite you.

fresnochick · 04-16-2008, 12:07 PM

Freinds with ex's isn't always a good thing. I think it's all good if both parties no longer have any love feelings for each other, but if one person still has feelings for the other, than definately not a good idea.

My ex-husband of 10yrs, still has feelings for me, therefore i can't be friends with him due to the fact that if i'm nice to him he thinks there's a chance we migh get back together. I have kids with my ex, therefore i have some form of communication with him, but nothing too friendly.

My boyfriend, same problem his ex of 10yrs ago, will not move on and still trys to be friends with him, they have no kids together, but she trys to play the poor me card to get in his life.

So i say hellllll no, neither one of us need the drama.