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Old 04-09-2008, 04:06 PM
miu
 
Location: MA/NH
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Cheating it obviously isn't, but I wouldn't like it. I don't know... I haven't encountered any of these obsessed with pictures/porn/you name it men and really wouldn't want them in my life... It's not that I'm a prude, but I feel I should be enough.
I don't like it either. At about the time I started dating my boyfriend, there was another guy that liked me also. But one of the many things that put me off from liking him was his habit of ogling other girls in public. And he thought it was his male right to do so. So years later, he is still publicly ogling girls (and looking like a creepy older guy (he's 30 and they usually are college age girls). My current boyfriend doesn't look at porn and isn't interested in looking at other women. That makes me extra happy.

Also, my first boyfriend was open about his porn magazine collection but I never saw him reading them when I was around. And my last boyfriend never showed an interest in porn or other women when we were dating, however after we broke up, he commented a few times that he liked to watch Charmed because he liked Shannon Doherty's breasts.

So most guys do look, but the classy guys are very discrete about it. And... it's a don't ask don't tell sort of thing to me. If I don't ask I don't want to be told about it.
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Old 04-09-2008, 04:15 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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So most guys do look, but the classy guys are very discrete about it. And... it's a don't ask don't tell sort of thing to me. If I don't ask I don't want to be told about it.
Exactly! Sometimes I'd jokingly discuss good-looking women and men we see on TV. I've no problem admitting other women are beautiful and can talk about it, but ogling them... c'mon... it's disrespectful. And while I wouldn't have a problem watching some soft porn together if the guy or I are interested, sneaking behind my back doing it would imply to me he's got deficiencies at home and I don't plan to be with somebody who doesn't consider me good enough ever! It may sound radical, but that's how it is.
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Old 04-09-2008, 04:37 PM
 
Location: el paso texas
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I don't plan to be with somebody who doesn't consider me good enough ever! It may sound radical, but that's how it is.

no diss, it doesnt sound radical, just a lil insecure.....sorry!
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Old 04-09-2008, 04:51 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I don't plan to be with somebody who doesn't consider me good enough ever! It may sound radical, but that's how it is.

no diss, it doesnt sound radical, just a lil insecure.....sorry!
Whatever... that's how I feel. To me it's sad women stay with guys who don't find them attractive enough and have the needs we're discussing.
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Old 04-09-2008, 05:07 PM
 
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My husband of almost 10 years has an obsession with looking a half nude women on the internet. He finds excuse after excuse as to why. Like....oh the radio station sent me an email and that just popped up or it was just bathing suit pics who cares or even better well my friend sent me this email.... The list goes on and on. I have expressed to him many times how this bothers me. I am 5'1", I don't have big breast or a curvy figure for that matter. I have told him I will never look like his FANTASY women and it is very hurtful. Every time I catch him he laughs and says he can't believe I was checking up on him. I have to because if I'm not getting the attention who is? Let me know your thoughts!!
REPLY: Your husband is emotionally unfaithful to you , currently. He is developing a 'relationship' of fantasy with airbrushed girls/women . The excuses he makes for doing so, are....simply excuses for his narcissitic agenda. Go to New Life Ministries: 1-800-NEW-LIFE for good materials on this destructive pastime for men which brings ruin to men and thier marriages. After youve come up to speed on the addiction he is cultivating in your own home, you will be wise in giving him an ultimatum...and the material available on the website will tell you some that will get him off dead center one way or the other. David.
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Old 04-09-2008, 05:10 PM
 
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ALSO : Dangers and Disappointments of Pornography (http://www.pureintimacy.org/gr/intimacy/understanding/a0000133.cfm - broken link)
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Old 04-09-2008, 06:05 PM
 
Location: Greensboro, NC
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To me lookin at pics is harmless... Unless your lookin at pics of someone else that your TALKING with. If it is random pics then who cares.
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Old 04-09-2008, 06:12 PM
 
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It would **** me off for sure....mainly because of the whole idea of "sneaking around" to do it, making excuses for why you do it, and getting defensive when asked about doing it. But I'd feel the same way about anything my man was trying to keep from me, especially if he knows it bothers me, whatever it might be.....I'd offer to look along with him and talk about it all. If it's no big deal, that shouldn't be a problem.
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Old 04-09-2008, 06:28 PM
 
Location: Around and about
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Would you rather he was with another woman and only looking at pics of you?
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Old 04-09-2008, 06:33 PM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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He's a slug with no respect for you. Surely he can find something better to occupy his time?
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