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I recall seeing a video about dating and relationships, and the topic was, "If you have to ask if it's a date while you're ON a date..." well, that's where it can get awkward.
Thankfully, this has only happened 3 times in my life, but it is rather off-putting when you ask someone out, you buy them dinner, and then either part way through or at the end of the date, I would say, "This is a fun date, I had a nice time" or "I enjoyed the date"
And they stop you cold and say, "This isn't a date, what made you think that?" The other night, I had this happened. She said she even had to clarify with her co-workers that it wasn't a "date". Apparently, they knew she was meeting me. If you have to clarify with your own co-workers, that means I'm aligned with the normal populace, right? lol She figured it was just a meet n greet, nothing more.
Then I asked, "So what's your definition of date" because I'm well aware everyone has their own definition of things when it comes to dating.
Then she joked, "Okay, I'm leaving then. No I'm kidding, lol!" The "date" did go well, she was flirting with me, and at the end, said I actually looked more attractive than my photos. Said she was available this weekend anytime, to get together.
I can't help but to think, do you really need to say, "Would you like to go out on a DATE" with me, with air quotes around the word "date"? That way you don't wind up with confusing during the so-called "date"?
It is clear the word "date" is a loaded word for her. My guess is that she thought you were using it on purpose rather than just using it casually and it triggered her.
It is clear the word "date" is a loaded word for her. My guess is that she thought you were using it on purpose rather than just using it casually and it triggered her.
Yep..."triggered" a quite often used term I keep seeing pop up on social media. lol
Her reaction is the orange flag that is often spoken about. But her reaction triggered you.
I wasn't triggered, as it was a natural response. "Triggered" ties to more of a psychological trauma I would think. I personally think it's a mis-used word used too often.
I wasn't triggered, as it was a natural response. "Triggered" ties to more of a psychological trauma I would think. I personally think it's a mis-used word used too often.
Uhm...way too much semantics here...avoid misunderstandings by more clearly specifying before the "event". It seems you are very picky about using the right terms and she is sensitive as well.
Why don't you specify your intentions up front...and also reconsider seeing people at work outside of work if you work at all closely together. Easier to avoid these uncomfortable issues that way.
So you met someone on a dating site, planned a get together, and she didn't want to call it a date but a meet and greet? So?
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