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Old 02-26-2019, 05:35 AM
 
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I don't let him. But they just force it.

It's like "we're gonna do it anyway"
By being OK with it, you're (in effect) "letting" them "do it".
I couldn't imagine staying friends with either...unless you enjoy sharing your fiance with your so called best friend and any others she takes a fancy to.
I find it very saaaad when people allow themselves to be used and abused like you're allowing them to do to you.
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Old 02-26-2019, 05:49 AM
 
Location: Crook County, Hellinois
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OP, here's the deal.

Your friend is the naturally desirable man your girlfriend wants to have sex with. You are the stable man your girlfriend wants to settle down with. This is not a compliment! Because 9 months from now, you will be a stepfather to a baby who looks like your friend, and guess what: she will commit paternity fraud and expect you to raise him/her. There's a school of thought that's against TOS to mention, and they've known all this since they were established in 2012. Don't be naive.
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Old 02-26-2019, 01:17 PM
 
Location: Forests of Maine
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... we plan on getting married ... she's slutty ... they ended up hooking up in front of me. ... she told me I don't satisfy her ... she said she was way more physically attracted to him
Your 'relationship' is toast. It is over. Even if you did marry her, you are doing this knowing her behavior. She will not change, ever. This behavior is who she is.

Have a long private talk with her. Just you and her.

Tell her that you can not do this, and that you must leave her.
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Old 02-26-2019, 01:21 PM
 
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Are you sexually impaired? Is that what's going on here?
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Old 02-26-2019, 01:29 PM
 
Location: Minnesota
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I don't let him. But they just force it.

It's like "we're gonna do it anyway"


Are you kept caged somehow that you can't walk away from this sh%t show??
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Old 02-27-2019, 10:16 AM
 
Location: Northern Wisconsin
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Just dump her today. No discussion. You can text her, then delete and end all contacts.
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Old 02-27-2019, 05:40 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Are you kept caged somehow that you can't walk away from this sh%t show??
Well, see....she's hot. He knows she's out of his league. So he can't walk away, because when would he ever land a hottie like her again? What are the odds? He probably figures, that if he wants a babe, he has to pay the price.

....or something.

So, he's trapped. Because he does want a babe. And this may well be his only chance of getting one, and keeping her around.
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Old 03-04-2019, 08:21 AM
 
Location: Minnesota
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Well, see....she's hot. He knows she's out of his league. So he can't walk away, because when would he ever land a hottie like her again? What are the odds? He probably figures, that if he wants a babe, he has to pay the price.

....or something.

So, he's trapped. Because he does want a babe. And this may well be his only chance of getting one, and keeping her around.
Possibly....so then what's her motivation to keep him around and how long before she decides she getting what she needs from the friend?
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Old 03-04-2019, 09:56 AM
 
Location: Between West Chester and Chester, PA
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You sound like the perfect couple and a very understanding person. I think you should remain in your place being the cuckhold and continue letting your "friend" and hoebag fiancee hook up.
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Old 03-04-2019, 10:18 AM
 
Location: Forests of Maine
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Possibly....so then what's her motivation to keep him around and how long before she decides she getting what she needs from the friend?
Security [a steady flow of cash, a home to live in, food, clothing, transportation]. The things that all females want.
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