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Old 03-17-2019, 03:01 PM
 
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What is the protocol on this? Say you just broke up and are not speaking. Is it rude or is it normal to not to say Happy Birthday after you just broke up?
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Old 03-17-2019, 03:44 PM
 
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There is no need to say Happy Birthday to someone you, or the other person, ended a relationship.

If you were the one who broke it off, the other party may think you're trying to get back in the door.

If you were not the one who broke it off it may look as though you're hoping the other person will want you back.

It's time to move on so both parties can heal.
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Old 03-17-2019, 03:55 PM
 
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There is no need to say Happy Birthday to someone you, or the other person, ended a relationship.

If you were the one who broke it off, the other party may think you're trying to get back in the door.

If you were not the one who broke it off it may look as though you're hoping the other person will want you back.

It's time to move on so both parties can heal.

This^^^^^^^

all day long....
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Old 03-17-2019, 03:56 PM
 
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Thanks, ladies and gents.
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Old 03-20-2019, 03:28 PM
 
Location: Minnesota
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My ex and I separated after Christmas and Valentines Day of that following year he sent me roses with a card that said something about old habits being hard to break. I didn't find it sweet, polite or any positive description. It felt pushy, desperate and sad. If you've broken up then let it go.
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Old 03-20-2019, 05:34 PM
 
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How about... Happy Birthday, I hope you choke on your cake.
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Old 03-20-2019, 07:28 PM
 
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lol too funny


His birthday is past now and I took you guys advice and did not say Happy Birthday.
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Old 03-21-2019, 07:27 AM
 
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Just because one isn't obligated to do something doesn't mean he or she shouldn't.

If you separated amicably, then I see nothing wrong with it. That is up and until other party asks you to stop.
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Old 03-21-2019, 07:36 AM
 
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Way back in the day, I was dating a guy. He broke up with me in January, and I got roses on Valentine's Day, with no card attached.


I was casually dating someone else at the time, and it occured to me that the ex MIGHT'VE been the one to send the flowers...but I wasn't sure.


A day or so after Valentine's Day, the ex called to see if I got the flowers. I replied that I DID get them. So...they were from you? He said "Yes, who ELSE would they have been from?" I just replied "Well...I wasn't sure." LOL
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Old 03-24-2019, 08:46 PM
 
Location: Tricity, PL
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What is the protocol on this? Say you just broke up and are not speaking. Is it rude or is it normal to not to say Happy Birthday after you just broke up?
If you broke up AND not speaking, then you are NOT speaking. What's confusing about that?
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