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Why have such expectations of a stranger? She may not be interested in a friendship, let alone a relationship. The poor woman only just moved in; why not simply be upbeat and neighborly, and let her set the tone? She may prefer to maintain a cordial distance. Or not. No one knows how she, or any other new neighbor, chooses to relate to neighbors.
Yeah I have agree with this.
I understanding wanting to be honest and make your feelings/attractions known before "someone else" does. But OP, barely knows anything about his woman. Let her settle in, be a decent person, and don't act like a horn dog. This is where I feel a lot of people go wrong.
Why have such expectations of a stranger? She may not be interested in a friendship, let alone a relationship. The poor woman only just moved in; why not simply be upbeat and neighborly, and let her set the tone? She may prefer to maintain a cordial distance. Or not. No one knows how she, or any other new neighbor, chooses to relate to neighbors.
The OP has done that.
He explained his dilemma quite succinctly in his post. And the fact that he posted this in the Romantic Relationships subforum means he is thinking ahead IF things develop.
Sure, they are and may remain neighbors. And I guess it could be a funny story if they love happily ever after to reminisce about “that time when you pretended you didn’t know who I was.”
He’s just asking for advice on how to be a neighbor without being a fibber.
He explained his dilemma quite succinctly in his post. And the fact that he posted this in the Romantic Relationships subforum means he is thinking ahead IF things develop.
Sure, they are and may remain neighbors. And I guess it could be a funny story if they love happily ever after to reminisce about “that time when you pretended you didn’t know who I was.”
He’s just asking for advice on how to be a neighbor without being a fibber.
Right, I know. I wasn't posting to the OP, but to the member I quoted.
Being discreet with someone about knowing their celebrity status isn't fibbing, in any case. And the OP's dilemma, as he presented it, only exists IF he follows his usual habit in getting to know someone, by asking what their occupation is. As several here have pointed out, as long as he avoids that question, there's no dilemma. I haven't run into this practice of asking new neighbors what they do for a living, so to me, it's a non-issue. The OP could choose to make it a non-issue, too.
I meet famous people from time to time. I don't get crazy; if we make eye contact, I nod acknowledgment and keep it moving. They just want to be left alone.
I did meet a local TV sportscaster one evening, some years ago. Gave a brief wave and he looked away sticking his nose in the air (pompous bastard!) Shortly after this he was fired from the station. Good for him!
I don't know if this has been said or not, because I didn't read the thread yet. I don't care how famous someone is, I treat them the same way that I would treat anybody. Famous people are just people too, who happen to be famous. Many famous people are full of themselves anyway. Not really the type of people to look up to.
Famous or not you shouldn't be asking people about their occupation. Hardly anyone really wants to talk about work and those that do are usually pretty boring.
One of my friends is a celebrity who is single. They really appreciate being approached by someone confident. Don’t act like you don’t know her (that would be a lie and she might not like that you’re lying). Just treat her like a normal person. You can say you’ve heard of her and smile but move on after that. She will talk about her work anyway probably. Take notes from Steadman, Oprah’s boyfriend.
Famous or not you shouldn't be asking people about their occupation. Hardly anyone really wants to talk about work and those that do are usually pretty boring.
99% of the time, it is boring talking about work but people do it anyway.
One of my friends is a celebrity who is single. They really appreciate being approached by someone confident. Don’t act like you don’t know her (that would be a lie and she might not like that you’re lying). Just treat her like a normal person. You can say you’ve heard of her and smile but move on after that. She will talk about her work anyway probably. Take notes from Steadman, Oprah’s boyfriend.
Good advice!
When I am graced to interact ..I express appreciation for their talent. No sense being evasive. They already know who they are! So take it as an opportunity to expand the chat with...while I'm a respecting admirer...have you seen the sunsets over the lake ? It's one of the reasons the Mrs and I moved here.
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