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it’s really not a big deal. Just treat her like you would a non famous person and she will probably appreciate that a lot. If you come across as a fan then you might not be taken seriously or she might think your a creep, etc. I have met a lot of famous people and especially the women always had doubts about eager male fans who might be creeps, stalkers, etc. You don’t want to be put into that category so I would just make conversation with her like you would anybody else but the topic of work is probably something you should let her bring up. And even then don’t act starstruck. You will come to find out famous people/women are just like everyone else some good, some bad. It’s really nothing special to be with someone famous lol. I know.
So a relatively famous female singer moved in next door. Not talking one of the superstars but still quite known. At first I didn't recognize her and we had a little chat and she seemed like a very nice and genuine person. But then after it came to me who she is I'v been in a bit of a conundrum.
One of the things I often talk to people about, as part of the getting to know process, is what their job/profession is. If I do that in this situation however I will either have to confirm I am a fan (which will make things uncomfortable) or deny I know of her which could lead to a spiral of lies and is also a bad start.
I would love some advice especially if you have been in a similar situation. I honestly liked her before it even occurred to me who she. But I obviously can't ignore the topic forever. Any ideas?
Why wouldn't you just say, "Hey, I didn't realize this at first, but aren't you....?" and leave it at that?
Then you don't gush. Compliment her and then move on.
Celebrities are people. I've met a few, and they all have their quirks, but most are relatively normal people nonetheless.
I had an encounter with an Oscar winner three years ago, interviewing him for a documentary. We traveled to his place out in the country, set up our equipment in his barn and waited. He and his wife showed up on the dot, he sat down and he did the interview in about 20 minutes. We didn't gush all over him, but rather just chit chatted with him for a few, talking about things like college football (It was November).
So he and his wife were about to head back to his house when he suddenly asked us over for coffee. So me, the shooter, and the sound guy sat in his kitchen for four hours drinking coffee and talking about the Civil War, barbecue, more college football, you name it. We were getting antsy because we had a long drive home, so we began to make our excuses to leave. But he insisted on leading us to his library. I even got to hold his Oscar. Then he talked to us another fifteen minutes in the driveway.
As we pulled away, the sound guy said, "You know, I think if there had been a football game on, he would have ordered pizzas and beer and we would have sat and watched it with him."
The point of this? This bad-ass actor who has performed some of the most iconic roles around just saw a bunch of guys he liked and wanted to hang out with us. My brother, who worked in Hollywood for years, had all kinds of friends who were celebrities of some kind. Most of them are just normal people who are in an abnormal profession. Same is true with the woman who is your neighbor.
Why wouldn't you just say, "Hey, I didn't realize this at first, but aren't you....?" and leave it at that?
Then you don't gush. Compliment her and then move on.
Celebrities are people. I've met a few, and they all have their quirks, but most are relatively normal people nonetheless.
I had an encounter with an Oscar winner three years ago, interviewing him for a documentary. We traveled to his place out in the country, set up our equipment in his barn and waited. He and his wife showed up on the dot, he sat down and he did the interview in about 20 minutes. We didn't gush all over him, but rather just chit chatted with him for a few, talking about things like college football (It was November).
So he and his wife were about to head back to his house when he suddenly asked us over for coffee. So me, the shooter, and the sound guy sat in his kitchen for four hours drinking coffee and talking about the Civil War, barbecue, more college football, you name it. We were getting antsy because we had a long drive home, so we began to make our excuses to leave. But he insisted on leading us to his library. I even got to hold his Oscar. Then he talked to us another fifteen minutes in the driveway.
As we pulled away, the sound guy said, "You know, I think if there had been a football game on, he would have ordered pizzas and beer and we would have sat and watched it with him."
The point of this? This bad-ass actor who has performed some of the most iconic roles around just saw a bunch of guys he liked and wanted to hang out with us. My brother, who worked in Hollywood for years, had all kinds of friends who were celebrities of some kind. Most of them are just normal people who are in an abnormal profession. Same is true with the woman who is your neighbor.
Back in the day we used to listen to a radio station here locally and would go to the station and meet the celebrities as they left the bldg. Met gene Simmons, Lars Ulrich among a boat load of others. I rember how cordial Gene Simmons was. We were talking to him and it almost seemed like he didn't want us to go.
Back in the day we used to listen to a radio station here locally and would go to the station and meet the celebrities as they left the bldg. Met gene Simmons, Lars Ulrich among a boat load of others. I rember how cordial Gene Simmons was. We were talking to him and it almost seemed like he didn't want us to go.
They are just human like the rest of us.....
Yep. I think, if anything, most of them crave being treated like ordinary human beings. I'm sure the fame is cool for a while, but the simple ability to eat in a restaurant in peace or just have a normal conversation becomes a real need after a while.
My brother's friend was married to another celeb who was a semi-famous TV actress. She was just so incredibly down to earth. A couple of times when I'd go visit him in LA, we'd drop by their house, or they come by his. Nice long chats about anything and everything but show biz. Incredibly down-to-earth woman. The second time I went out there, two years after the first visit, she remembered a lot about me and my wife.
She was really talented, so she went on to Las Vegas and had an ongoing gig at a casino. Once when I was there for a trade show, I took a couple of clients to see her perform. Before the show, on a whim, I handed my business card to the hostess and asked her to please take it backstage. About five minutes later the hostess came back and said, "She said, stay put after the performance. She wants to come out and say hello."
True to her word, she came out, sat down, and hung out with me and my client for a half-hour. I mean, she totally didn't have to do that. My brother moved to the East Coast, so I have seen her in years. But that was just the kind of person she was.
Yep. I think, if anything, most of them crave being treated like ordinary human beings. I'm sure the fame is cool for a while, but the simple ability to eat in a restaurant in peace or just have a normal conversation becomes a real need after a while.
My brother's friend was married to another celeb who was a semi-famous TV actress. She was just so incredibly down to earth. A couple of times when I'd go visit him in LA, we'd drop by their house, or they come by his. Nice long chats about anything and everything but show biz. Incredibly down-to-earth woman. The second time I went out there, two years after the first visit, she remembered a lot about me and my wife.
She was really talented, so she went on to Las Vegas and had an ongoing gig at a casino. Once when I was there for a trade show, I took a couple of clients to see her perform. Before the show, on a whim, I handed my business card to the hostess and asked her to please take it backstage. About five minutes later the hostess came back and said, "She said, stay put after the performance. She wants to come out and say hello."
True to her word, she came out, sat down, and hung out with me and my client for a half-hour. I mean, she totally didn't have to do that. My brother moved to the East Coast, so I have seen her in years. But that was just the kind of person she was.
I think this partly sums it up. I've met and spoken with numerous celebrities, as I dabble in the industry myself. The general rule is not to talk about the industry; discuss other things, but nothing pertaining to show business. Talk with them as if you're talking with a friend or acquaintance.
So a relatively famous female singer moved in next door. Not talking one of the superstars but still quite known. At first I didn't recognize her and we had a little chat and she seemed like a very nice and genuine person. But then after it came to me who she is I'v been in a bit of a conundrum.
One of the things I often talk to people about, as part of the getting to know process, is what their job/profession is. If I do that in this situation however I will either have to confirm I am a fan (which will make things uncomfortable) or deny I know of her which could lead to a spiral of lies and is also a bad start.
I would love some advice especially if you have been in a similar situation. I honestly liked her before it even occurred to me who she. But I obviously can't ignore the topic forever. Any ideas?
Be friendly because you want to be friendly or a neighbor not because she’s famous. These people have lots of fans. They probably have less friends.
I've had different celebrity encounter experiences. The "famous" (kind of high-level cult following) people I've known best were members of the band, GWAR. But the singer who passed away five years ago was the kind of dude who pulled lots and lots of people in and made them feel like family. So I tell people I talk to that being friends with him in particular...it sure doesn't make ME special, it made HIM special, it was just how he was. He treated other people like rock stars, he didn't act like one.
But it's funny though, I have a photo of one of the first few encounters I had with him, he gave me a gift of a piece of costuming he'd been wearing on the tour and it blew my mind that he'd do that (I've had people offer me a lot of money for it--I'd never sell it though) and in these pictures I've got the creepiest grin I think I've seen on a human face. It's funny and embarrassing at the same time. Anyhow he was a hell of a guy and I miss him a lot. One trick when it came to getting "in" to be friends with the rest of the band, was that I'd often bring food. Big custom order of Voodoo Doughnuts a few times...bake some cookies...whatever. Just a nice gesture. They appreciate that. And then try to act normal and not put your foot in your mouth. If a celebrity moved into my neighborhood (if they were someone I cared about, as I'm not interested in most famous people) I'd suddenly become the neighbor who brought cookies or pie or something to like...every new neighbor. And I wouldn't remark on who they were, I'd just welcome them to the neighborhood. Be friendly, be cool. Then back off and wait until you get a more natural opportunity for another encounter.
In recent years, I started going to these conventions with my boyfriend, who is super into getting autographs and meeting people from sci fi movies and TV and stuff. He tries to drag me up there with him and it just feels incredibly awkward to me. Forced. I never know what to say. I'm a chatty extrovert and I love to make new connections, but I can't seem to make those moments anything but strained and weird feeling.
It's like we're talking about a wild animal here. "Approach slowly, have bait on hand, don't make any sudden moves, let them come to you. And, whatever you do, don't show any fear. They can smell fear."
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