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OP, are you on the spectrum too? Your focus on "angry faces" (rather than understanding the emotions behind them) and your superficiality about this woman made me wonder. If you are neuro-atypical, it might explain why you don't seem to be grasping any of our advice or warnings. Good luck!
OP, are you on the spectrum too? Your focus on "angry faces" (rather than understanding the emotions behind them) and your superficiality about this woman made me wonder. If you are neuro-atypical, it might explain why you don't seem to be grasping any of our advice or warnings. Good luck!
No I'm not.
I'm not focusing on "angry faces", that doesn't bother me, I'm more focusing on lack of emotional self control.
If a woman has to raise her voice, she's not a good fit for me and my son. Not because of me, but because of my son. In other words I'm a proxy for protecting my son from things that will set him off.
I have a very high emotional IQ and can filter through a lot of BS. With my gf it's just hard to be a neutral party because feelings are involved.
OK, after reading all 257 posts (it's a slow day and I'm home with a cold, what can I say?), I've come to the conclusion that you two are absolutely perfect for each other.
She's a shallow spoiled egomaniac woman-child with a hot bod and a beautiful face and you're so desperate for people to look at you with perceived "envy" that you're willing to put up with anything she throws at you.
Hey, a marriage made in heaven. Or hell. Either way, you are fulfilling each other's dreams, right?
I suggest that you tell her that you'll marry her but that all your money/estate/holdings will be going to your son. Also, you're going to take out an expensive life insurance policy with your son as the sole beneficiary. I'm sure since she likes your son so much, she won't have any problem with this? And then see how fast she moves on to the next sucker.
In person, a lot of things are said with a big smile and she likes to tickle me or say some joke or something. In the past when women wanted to hurt me they were verbally combative and had a very angry face, were yelling, or crying. She always has a smile and doesn't show any kind of negative emotion. She's so even keeled, exes wore their emotions on their sleeves so it's hard to know what she's really thinking.
This was the Asperger's giveaway.
OP thinks that women become upset with him for no other reason than to hurt him. And they do it with their "angry faces." His understanding of emotions goes no farther than what he sees; what people show on the surface (big smile, angry face).
There is no self awareness here about what he might have said or done, or even what the women may be upset about. A neurotypical person would lead with the information about what the argument was about, and whether the reason was unfair or justified. They do not focus entirely on the facial expressions and body language displayed in an argument.
Op, please don't take this as a put down. But for the sake of you and your son maybe you should employ a good therapist. From the way you spoke about your finances you can afford it. Take this thread with you and show therapist what your thoughts are on this girl. You are not going into this relationship with this girl with eyes wide open. If it was just you involved that's one thing but with your son, who is vulnerable, is a completely different story. Maybe a therapist can help you sort things out. Your not going to get it here. This is entertainment for some.
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