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Old 04-10-2008, 09:22 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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It is kind of a funny thing in my opinion. We realize it is harder on us to never ask and just wonder. I've had my fair share of being too scared to ask a girl out, and it actually bugged me for a while. But i've actually noticed when I actually do take the initiative i'm rarely rejected. (of course i have been a couple times) but it seems to turn out for the better more than the worse. Even if i'm rejected i'm over it in 5 minutes. Just kind of a funny thing because even after knowing this, we still never want to take the initative and get rejected :P
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Old 04-10-2008, 09:50 PM
 
Location: Around and about
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Preach on. I used to beat myself up for not just asking. Then I figured I had nothing to lose but a few minutes embarrassment, which is much better than weeks of wondering "what if".
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Old 04-10-2008, 10:13 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Remember a joke about a guy telling a friend of his approach - I just go to them and tell them "let's f**k!". The friend says - oh, wow, you must get slapped on the face a lot. And the other guy responds - Yes, I do. But I also get laid a lot.

I'd imagine sales people must be the best at it. They should be used to rejection.
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Old 04-10-2008, 10:15 PM
 
Location: Beautiful New England
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I just go to them and tell them "let's f**k!".
I did that once--at closing time at a bar. And it worked!

I figured out in college that there was nothing to lose if you just asked for a date. I ended up dating a lot; some dates were real duds, others good.
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Old 04-10-2008, 10:15 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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Remember a joke about a guy telling a friend of his approach - I just go to them and tell them "let's f**k!". The friend says - oh, wow, you must get slapped on the face a lot. And the other guy responds - Yes, I do. But I also get laid a lot.

I'd imagine sales people must be the best at it. They should be used to rejection.
haha aint that the truth
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Old 04-10-2008, 10:27 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I did that once--at closing time at a bar. And it worked!
Hey, one out of one - not too shabby, I'd say...
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Old 04-10-2008, 11:07 PM
 
Location: TX
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Sometimes you can play reverse psychology with your mind and bet yourself on getting rejected. It might settle the nerves if you don't care about getting shot down. sierra, I wouldn't mind a slap for a lay. One head may suffer but the other will enjoy.

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Remember a joke about a guy telling a friend of his approach - I just go to them and tell them "let's f**k!". The friend says - oh, wow, you must get slapped on the face a lot. And the other guy responds - Yes, I do. But I also get laid a lot.

I'd imagine sales people must be the best at it. They should be used to rejection.
I haven't heard of that joke, but I'm sure most guys wouldn't mind a slap for a lay. One head may hurt but the other will do the hurtin'!
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Old 04-10-2008, 11:10 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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I did that once--at closing time at a bar. And it worked!

I figured out in college that there was nothing to lose if you just asked for a date. I ended up dating a lot; some dates were real duds, others good.
Surprisingly it actually worked for me too, never been slapped.. i've actually been turned down nicely when asking like that before too lol
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Old 04-10-2008, 11:22 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Surprisingly it actually worked for me too, never been slapped.. i've actually been turned down nicely when asking like that before too lol
Oh, my, anecdotal evidence keeps piling up! Looks like I opened another can of worms without even trying. It just comes naturally to me...

Will wake up tomorrow to a Huge Battle of the Sexes!
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Old 04-10-2008, 11:25 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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I haven't heard of that joke, but I'm sure most guys wouldn't mind a slap for a lay. One head may hurt but the other will do the hurtin'!
I know, my friend, I know... You generally sound very honest, I'll give ya that!
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