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My mother always says the next time she gets married, it would be to someone who loves her more than she loves him. If that's what works for her, cool. But stuff like that doesn't work for me. If I'm barely into the guy or not at all, he'll just start to get on my nerves after a while. I'd stay away from those who feel like there has to be some sort of power dynamic like their partner needs to be controlled/manipulated. Like I said, it's just toxic and a breeding ground for dysfunction. Yeaauuuucchh! No thanks.
My mother always says the next time she gets married, it would be to someone who loves her more than she loves him. If that's what works for her, cool. But stuff like that doesn't work for me. If I'm barely into the guy or not at all, he'll just start to get on my nerves after a while. I'd stay away from those who feel like there has to be some sort of power dynamic like their partner needs to be controlled/manipulated. Like I said, it's just toxic and a breeding ground for dysfunction. Yeaauuuucchh! No thanks.
I mean, if that's what works for your mom, but can't see how that would end well. Most guys aren't going to want to deal with someone that doesn't love them at the same level.
I'd have a very hard time pointing to which of us is more attached, my boyfriend or myself...I don't think I could. We're both pretty shmoopy for each other.
Enjoy it while it lasts....someday your "junior high" romance could end.
People who are highly insecure and/or have not had a successful meaningful romantic relationship are probably the ones behind perpetuating this idea. I've heard such ideas before back when I was dating, and this was one of those wild theories that got thrown around. These people think in terms of who's winning, who has the upper hand, who has it easier/more difficult, keeping score, etc. It's a hyper competitive mindset around dating, which IMO, is very unhealthy to begin with.
Enjoy it while it lasts....someday your "junior high" romance could end.
Wow, junior high romance three and a half years in, with me at 40 and him at 60...? lol
I'm very sorry that some not only haven't found real reciprocal love but don't even believe in it. I know how that feels, and it sucked, at least for me.
Sure, the crazy bonfire of the earliest days does mellow out, but that doesn't always have to mean that at least one partner gets all "meh" about it.
Yeah l agree and tbh , l dunno wth op is even thinking with this stuff.
Any real relationship with real feelings and honesty is not some game or scoreboard or about power op. But if it was then you both deserve each other l'd say.
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