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...Why not add on "would you like to join us?" or have a coffee afterwards, or something. It's like she gave him half a sentence. What was the point of texting if she wasn't going to ask him to meet up? Is she fishing for him to do the asking? Ugh, so childish.
That was my thought. Same thing happened to me, only he texted: "Hey look where my daughter suggested we have dinner." It was a restaurant 4 blocks from where I live, except I wasn't home, one that I said that I like. I thought it was kind of annoying, I'm not going to invite myself. But I gave him another opening, I replied: "Nice! I love that place." ...and that was that. Only he was clear he wasn't on a date, and I didn't give it a second thought. If it was more than that and he can't say what he means, oh well!
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I received a text from her saying "hey I am in your area today with my sister and we are going to have brunch at this jazz place"
1. Was that her way of wanting me to ask her to come and see me?
2. Was actually on a 1st date with another man in my area from dating app?
Just thought it was odd she never mentioned seeing me while she in town.
I have no idea what she meant, and neither do you. She may just have been saying "hey cool, we're in the same town." People do that all the time. Or perhaps you were meant to think you were invited, but she should have been explicit about that (and if this is the case and she says later "why didn't you come by the jazz place?" just tell her, "You didn't ask me to come; I don't invite myself to places, and you did not say that you wanted me to come there, so I thought you were just letting me know.").
Why on earth would you think she was on a date with someone else? Why would she tell you she was out and then lie about who she was with if that was the case? She would just not tell you, period.
Why did she not mention seeing you? Because she was with her sister and this was their time. I'm sure that if you two were on a date, you wouldn't want her sister showing up to hang out.
How did the O.P. glean "actually out on a date with another man in my area" from *that* text?
I've done what this girl's done before, i.e., either shot someone a text or messaged them on Facebook telling them that I was in their neck of the woods with so-and-so doing such-and-such. It's usually neither a hint nor a invitation--just something that made me think of the person to whom I chose to send a text. Friends of mine also do this, too. It's not out of the usual order of things.
O.P., don't borrow trouble where there isn't any to be found. If she's never been to your area before and/or you've never been to this jazzy brunch place, ask her what she thought of your area and the restaurant at some point in the near future. It might be somewhere that you'd enjoy going together at some point in the future.
give the guy a break......after a lifetime of second guessing what women really want in mixed messages....when you finally get a straightforward one.....he didn't know how to react
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Only he was clear he wasn't on a date, and I didn't give it a second thought. If it was more than that and he can't say what he means, oh well!
