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Old 04-24-2019, 09:49 AM
 
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Ok so you didn't ask him out. But he was clearly fending you off, or making a pre-emptive excuse so you would know that no invitation was pending.

How to act?

Like I said, don't do anything. Date other guys, and see if this guy puts up or shuts up.



Moving on, stemming from "Thank you . .. next!"
Yes thats what i thought as well.

I dont know. Maybe these are genuine things that happened to him, but i dont know him really and this could really be an excuse after all.

Tbh, cancelling 2 hrs before the date after i had texted him to change the place strikes me as an excuse.

I think he may have tried to string me along for whatever reason.

And to me it seemed very weird when he said he thought i would stay longer? Like he wished i stayed longer, right?? lol

I think you are right i wont text a word.
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Old 04-24-2019, 10:14 AM
 
Location: Boulder, CO
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Trying to follow the timeline, it sounds to me like he is interested and vacation and real life issues have interfered with the two of you meeting. Maybe send him a quick text telling him when things settle back to situation-normal, that you look forward to meeting - then wait (and keep pursuing other avenues).


The "promise of a neck massage" struck me a little funny. Maybe a neck rub is just a neck rub but ... intended first date escalation ?
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Old 04-24-2019, 10:18 AM
 
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I already said i am looking forward to meeting.

I also said i would be back yesterday and he told me about his dad.

Also what was that he thought i would stay longer ?? lol

I honestly dont know if i should even text at this point
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Old 04-24-2019, 01:45 PM
 
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But i didnt ask him out. Tbh i dunno really how to act now text or not text as i dunno even if he wants to go out with me at this point.

I wouldn't text him anymore. If he's really interested, he'll reach out to you. If I'm understanding this situation correctly, he's kind of blown you off twice now? Or if not 'blown you off" kind of put you off twice now?


Yeah...let him make the next move.
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Old 04-24-2019, 02:00 PM
 
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No its just that he texted me yesterday and i told him i would be back so we talked a little and told me about his father . Now today he says how sexy i am commenting on a pic of me poledancing (for fitness) and he said he is looking forward to see me again.
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Old 04-24-2019, 02:18 PM
 
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No its just that he texted me yesterday and i told him i would be back so we talked a little and told me about his father . Now today he says how sexy i am commenting on a pic of me poledancing (for fitness) and he said he is looking forward to see me again.

So let HIM make any plans, if there's going to be plans. He may very well be stringing you along, hoping to get naked pictures of you...at this point, you don't know.


Just be cool, and if you should become interested in someone else, don't be waiting on this guy. It's to the point that he needs to s**t or get off the pot, know what I mean?
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Old 04-24-2019, 02:19 PM
 
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oh my GOD just stop spiraling!

Do nothing. Be with your friends. Do a good job at work. Call your mother. Go to the gym. Get this guy out of your head. He never belonged there in the first place.

If he calls, he calls. Obsessing about it will just make you act weird and disproportionately attached to this stranger.
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Old 04-24-2019, 02:28 PM
 
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Maybe he is stringing me along yes....
Otherwise why wouldn't he make plans by now
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Old 04-24-2019, 02:32 PM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Maybe he is stringing me along yes....
Otherwise why wouldn't he make plans by now



For God's Sake, Stop It!
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Old 04-24-2019, 04:10 PM
 
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Keep over thinking this...he'll be over you without a second date. I tend to go with the flow...try that.
You keep putting on the brakes ...not him. It's one thing to be alluring and mysterious. ..but dang. You are a box of planters nuts and the party hasn't even been begun.
Chill.
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