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Old 04-27-2019, 06:53 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Perhaps she has learned to provide what her boyfriend was looking for.


Or perhaps she has learned to leave relationships where there is no honesty and no trust.
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Old 04-27-2019, 07:49 AM
 
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My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for about 8 years and next month he is going on a 2-day business trip. i was fishing in his mobile this past week because there was this lady who was liking every photo of him on Instagram and i was getting worried because i caught him deleting messages and using tinder some years ago. While i was searching if anything happened (which thankfully i didn't) with this girl i saw he was searching for escorts in the particular area where he will be staying during his short trip.

He has been searching for escorts since a week ago almost everyday and on multiple websites. i really do not know if he will act on it or not since when he used tinder he just flirted using a fake profile so i don't know if he is searching for escorts out of curiosity or if he really is willing to hook up. what should i think or do, i am so confused
Well when I have a cheating man, I pack their crap up and move them out. One I dropped his stuff off at Goidwill and told him he could go there to buy it back. The second, I loaded his truck. He looked like he was the Beverly hillbillies with even lawn mowers ratchet strapped off the side of his truck bed...

Woman scorned and all...

I recommend you make him your ex.
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Old 04-27-2019, 09:50 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I think you should tell him you got the brilliant idea to join him on the business trip!
This. Approach him all excited, and say you got a few days off work, so you can go with him on the business trip. Chirp happily about all the fun you'll have together, when he's not in his business meetings--like a mini-vacation! Watch his face.

Report back.
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Old 04-27-2019, 09:54 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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He is looking for a quick hook-up, that will not include any strings.

In your relationship with him, there is some drive of his that has been left unanswered.

You can view this as his need to cheat and you can end it. Feeling righteous, and hurt.

Or you can see this as a wake-up call to dig in and find out what he needs from the relationship.

The next step is yours.
It sounds like this has been going on for years, though. It might not be the relationship; it might just be him, and his need for "variety".

What concerns me about it, is that the implication is, that he's been lying to her for years, pretending to be devoted and exclusive. Her, addressing whatever she may think could be lacking in the relationship, or whatever fake reason he might give, if she raises the question, isn't going to change who he is at the core. He's a dishonest person, period. That's how I see it. He's not at all the person she thought he was. Wake-up call. Actually, according to the OP's narrative, it's at least Wake-Up Call #2, in 8 years.
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Old 04-27-2019, 01:39 PM
 
Location: Elsewhere
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Perhaps she has learned to provide what her boyfriend was looking for.
Krazy Glue in his underwear?
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Old 04-27-2019, 01:54 PM
 
Location: Vero Beach, FL
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It sounds like you know that he is not honest and you dont want to believe it. Believe it!!! It is not worth being with someone who cant be trusted. And its not because of anything you did or are lacking in. It is HIS issue. He is putting his own "wants" ahead of you and the relationship. From what you describe he is most definitely looking for a hook-up. Whats sad is, he has no care that he could go have sex with an escort and possibly bring a disease back home to you. That is the epitome of pure selfishness. I would confront him with what you know. It will do you no good to ignore his behavior and hope it doesn't happen, all the while you feeling miserable and hurt inside. Take care of YOU.
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Old 04-27-2019, 04:46 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Another one of so many of these one time, never seen again, posters.
I suppose the forum might be less active without them but, damn!
Do those that keep replying never look to see if they're 'talking' to no body?
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Old 04-27-2019, 05:21 PM
 
Location: The Triad
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why is my boyfriend searching for escorts ?

Because he's lazy and doesn't want to be bothered by any messy amateur love stuff
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Old 04-29-2019, 11:15 PM
 
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he wants to have sex while on business... duh?
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Old 05-01-2019, 01:38 AM
 
Location: Mountains of Oregon
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Krazy Glue in his underwear?

......ouch
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