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I’m just curious to reasons people might end a relationship even if they are in love. I know one person not wanting kids is one. What are others?
Love does not conquer all and does not a functional relationship make. That being said, reasons for breaking up even when you love someone are:
1.) Geographical distance. When a couple is young and mostly unencumbered with family obligations and are early on in their career track(s), it's far easier to pick up and move to be with one another than later on when life begins to happen in a much bigger way. Throw in family concerns (aging parents, co-parenting children and/or custodial agreements that necessitate one remaining in a certain area, etc.) and unique job opportunities that might not be easily available to you in another location and the logistics become much more complicated.
2.) Poor financial management/drastically different money management styles. Huge deal breaker for many people.
3.) Addictions of any kind.
4.) Wanting or not wanting to reproduce.
5.) Too different as people. This one varies wildly from couple to couple, of course,
6.) Religious differences.
7.). Incompatible world views.
8.) Sexual incompatibly and/or one partner is a serial cheater.
9.) One or both partners needing time to work on themselves solo.
If you are in love, it doesn't mean the other person is. They may be there for a free ride, or using you, etc. If you are both in love with each other foremost, then many of the reasons given like finances, family, religion, etc. shouldn't matter. If one person is abusing or cheating on the other or lost in harmful addictions, then they love their behavior more than the person they claim to be in love with. I knew a heroin junky that quit cold turkey in order to get custody of his daughter. I was a heavy drinker for more than 25 years and a daily drinker for 45 years, though I never missed a day of work or had an accident or even a tiket for DUI, but when my doctors and my wife said I had to quit, I just did.
Amazing, uncontrollable debt. Payments don't cover interest on student loans any longer.
No savings, precarious position in the job market, being out-sourced by less educated persons.
Incredible, overwhelming stress affecting all domains of functioning.
One is ready to retire, the other sees themselves in the employment field for the next 20 years.
Pragmatic decisions on future capacity/functioning, given family history of medical illness.
First a sincere thanks Mystic for addressing my spelling error in an earlier post. I'm all thumbs somedays!
You're welcome. I cringe when I see but can't correct my own typos on CD due to too much time elapsing. Uggh! I wish the editing period for posts was 24 hours, lol.
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Originally Posted by Nov3
Humans can love unconditionally.
In theory, we can. In practice, 99.999999999999999% of us don't.
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I cringe when I see but can't correct my own typos on CD due to too much time elapsing. Uggh! I wish the editing period for posts was 24 hours, lol.
