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Old 06-02-2019, 11:40 PM
 
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Been dating a girl for 6 months now and starting to really like her. She is divorced and came out of a bad marriage. However, it was not until recent where I found out that she cheated on her husband, multiple times and she was very honest with me about it. I really do respect her for opening up to me and I realize her past has nothing to do with me but I canít help but question her infidelity and how to move forward from here. People change, grow and learn so I donít want to let this bother me but it has to a certain extent. Any advice on how to approach this?
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Old 06-03-2019, 12:34 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Been dating a girl for 6 months now and starting to really like her. She is divorced and came out of a bad marriage. However, it was not until recent where I found out that she cheated on her husband, multiple times and she was very honest with me about it. I really do respect her for opening up to me and I realize her past has nothing to do with me but I can’t help but question her infidelity and how to move forward from here. People change, grow and learn so I don’t want to let this bother me but it has to a certain extent. Any advice on how to approach this?
How long was she married?

How long ago was all the cheating?
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Old 06-03-2019, 01:36 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Your issue is that you really don’t believe people can change.
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Old 06-03-2019, 03:57 AM
 
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This says a lot about her.

However, I don’t know the underlining circumstances behind her failed marriage.

I do know it bothers you so I would say find someone else.
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Old 06-03-2019, 04:46 AM
 
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Did she just get divorced last week and you were the partner in the offense?
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Old 06-03-2019, 06:03 AM
 
Location: Northern Virginia
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How long was she married?

How long ago was all the cheating?
And...

Was her cheating the reason why the marriage was bad?

Or did she cheat because her marriage was bad?
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Old 06-03-2019, 06:21 AM
 
Location: rural south west UK
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once a cheat always a cheat.
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Old 06-03-2019, 06:55 AM
 
Location: A safe distance from San Francisco
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Your issue is that you really donít believe people can change.
Because their core values seldom do.
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Old 06-03-2019, 08:41 AM
 
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Married 6 years. She cheated in 2017 cause she was miserable being with him (horrible husband/person per her words) she didn’t know how to get out and made the bad decisions. They divorced in beginning of 2018, started dating me at the end of that year.
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Old 06-03-2019, 08:50 AM
 
Location: Denver CO
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once a cheat always a cheat.
Not necessarily, but it is true that the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
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