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Hi everyone,
So I’m seeing this guy and he says that he cares about me but today I wasn’t feeling well. I told him I fainted and hurt my knees.
He told to take care and he will call me in a while. It’s been hours.
I know that he is gone overseas for a family trip and he might be busy but I kinda felt like he only calls me when he has nothing else to do.
Or am I misreading this?
After what you went through with your last relationship, there's a strong chance that it left you more sensitive to this sort of thing than many others would be.
You have a lot of healing to do, so be kind to yourself and do your best to not project the past on the present.
You didn't take much of a break between your last relationship and beginning to date again--have you considered taking some time to fly solo in order to heal and discover what your wants and needs are within a relationship and what you have to give to a partner in return?
For now, relax, have a cup of tea, and try not to overthink things. If he calls, he calls. If he doesn't? In that case you can decide whether or not you want to share with him how you feel about this or call it a "one off" and let it slide.
You're going to be okay even if this man isn't for you in the long run.
Hi everyone,
So I’m seeing this guy and he says that he cares about me but today I wasn’t feeling well. I told him I fainted and hurt my knees.
He told to take care and he will call me in a while. It’s been hours.
I know that he is gone overseas for a family trip and he might be busy but I kinda felt like he only calls me when he has nothing else to do.
Or am I misreading this?
Did you tell him via text message? How did the conversation go exactly?
After what you went through with your last relationship, there's a strong chance that it left you more sensitive to this sort of thing than many others would be.
You have a lot of healing to do, so be kind to yourself and do your best to not project the past on the present.
You didn't take much of a break between your last relationship and beginning to date again--have you considered taking some time to fly solo in order to heal and discover what your wants and needs are within a relationship and what you have to give to a partner in return?
For now, relax, have a cup of tea, and try not to overthink things. If he calls, he calls. If he doesn't? In that case you can decide whether or not you want to share with him how you feel about this or call it a "one off" and let it slide.
You're going to be okay even if this man isn't for you in the long run.
You're right. I should be focusing on myself. I wouldn’t say it’s a relationship but somehow getting to know each other. Thank you heaps
You're right. I should be focusing on myself. I wouldn’t say it’s a relationship but somehow getting to know each other. Thank you heaps
Be gentle with yourself. It's understandable for you to be on "high alert" for any signs that might lead you into a relationship similar to the one that you left behind last year. Most men are not like your last boyfriend. There are good men out there. Finding one who's a good fit for you and you for him? That's the tricky part.
For better or worse, people do tend to drift towards "types" when it comes to interpersonal relationships. Most of the time, that's not a bad thing. Other times, drifting towards those who treat their partners poorly is indicative of several things--not feeling as though you (using the word "you" in a general sense) deserve better treatment, feeling as though perseverance on your part will cause he/she to become a better person due to your love and influence and/or such treatment is what you've known from your earliest relationships as how a relationship is supposed to be (including in how your parents treated one another and/or, if they divorced and repartnered, how they treated their new partners).
As a human being, you're a continual work in progress. I'm glad that you've been able to begin to date again, have been wise enough to take things slowly, and have not rushed headlong into a new relationship.
I'd say, cut him some slack as he's abroad with family and see how things are once you next see him face-to-face.
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