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Old 07-04-2019, 11:47 AM
 
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And he was there. At the time she was inviting you over. He can't leave because he has a child there and he has nowhere to go. He's clearly upset about it. But it's guaranteed sex. Would you do it?

Just musing about old situations my ex used to put me in. It was a threat and a horrible one, but I always caved before she followed through. When I left, I did so quickly out of fear she'd follow through on threats like these and others. But looking back, now I wonder if she could even easily find someone that would participate in that.

Yes, I know it's in my past. I'm processing what I went through. This helps. Bear with me.
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Old 07-04-2019, 11:48 AM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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Oh, hell no.
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Old 07-04-2019, 11:48 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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And he was there. At the time she was inviting you over. He can't leave because he has a child there and he has nowhere to go. He's clearly upset about it. But it's guaranteed sex. Would you do it?

Just musing about old situations my ex used to put me in. It was a threat and a horrible one, but I always caved before she followed through. When I left, I did so quickly out of fear she'd follow through. But looking back, now I wonder if she could even easily find someone that would participate in that.

Yes, I know it's in my past. I'm processing what I went through. This helps. Bear with me.
Ew no.

Before she would follow through with what??

That Poor kid ...
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Old 07-04-2019, 11:50 AM
 
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Yeah, it was a rough time. I carry a lot of guilt over what I brought into our lives...
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Old 07-04-2019, 12:09 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Ew no.

Before she would follow through with what??

That Poor kid ...
On the surface that sounds pretty crazy.

However, if it was a situation where they were completely living as platonic room mates, with him in a separate bedroom/separate wing of the house/separate floor of the house and both of them were completely over the other person, then maybe (assuming the young child doesn't realize that mommy has sleep over guests). But, I really doubt if that was the case, especially if there were "threats" involved.
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Old 07-04-2019, 12:15 PM
 
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On the surface that sounds pretty crazy.

However, if it was a situation where they were completely living as platonic room mates, with him in a separate bedroom/separate wing of the house/separate floor of the house and both of them were completely over the other person, then maybe (assuming the young child doesn't realize that mommy has sleep over guests). But, I really doubt if that was the case, especially if there were "threats" involved.
Nope, pretty much a "Oh, you're breaking up with me, ok. I'm texting Tom, we'll be in the bedroom. I'll be as loud as I want. Sleep wherever you want, IDC." That sort of thing. Smallish home. Wasn't my kids mom, which makes my guilt from the whole thing pretty unbearable.
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Old 07-04-2019, 01:24 PM
 
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I would think that would be a no-brainer, unless you don’t mind putting yourself in a position to get killed by the ex. Good grief!
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Old 07-04-2019, 01:28 PM
 
Location: Emerald Coast, FL
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Yes, I did this many times. They had a lease that lasted almost another year. After a few months of dating her, I essentially lived there half the week and telecommuted to work, and her ex worked out of the house. She had her office and practice in the house, too.

The key to it working is that they had good boundaries and he is a very honorable person. He and I became friends, and remain so 20 years later. I didn't see it as a problem whatsoever - and it wasn't.
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Old 07-04-2019, 04:00 PM
 
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I wouldn’t get into a relationship with a woman who lived with her ex.
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Old 07-04-2019, 04:07 PM
 
Location: Hockey Rulez, Texas
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I would think that would be a no-brainer, unless you don’t mind putting yourself in a position to get killed by the ex. Good grief!
Yes, very good chance that 1 day he could hit his breaking point.



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I wouldn’t get into a relationship with a woman who lived with her ex.
Bingo...
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