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Old 07-09-2019, 04:09 AM
 
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I donít understand how someone could be so cruel. How, in May he tells me that heís a ****ed up person, he just wants to be left alone. Heís a ****ty person, and Iím over here worried ****less about this guy because I cared about him deeply, and I wanted to make sure that he was okay. I wanted to make sure that if he needed anything, that he could always just ask me because Iím there for you and I know what itís like to be going through whatever it is and not have someone there.

So I was there. This happened like 3rd/4th week of May. In that very same week, he then tells me how he wants nothing to do with me and my emotions, and honestly yíall. I was at first heartbroken (still am, but wait thereís more) Iím upset and hurt at this guy because I just like showed to you how much I care about you, how much I would be there for you, but then you want to tell me that you want nothing to do with me nor nothing to do with my emotions, and then Iím just like ďfine, you know what, bet!Ē But truthfully that week of May and hitting June have been hard for me because I didnít understand what I did to this guy besides showed that I cared.

So Iím here heartbroken, begging my Gods and Goddesses to remove this pain because I couldnít deal anymore. I couldnít deal with that kind of heart and then having my friends say my eyes are screaming that they are hurt, and then breaking down into tears.

Then last week he wants to come back, and me with my always giving people chances self took him back, and he wants to act as if he didnít say those things and do those things. I honestly just cracked, and then I ask him why does he keep coming in and out of my life constantly, why does he keep doing that if he doesnít want to stick around? Like why come back for the 4th/5th time.

(No this wasnít the first time, but this being the most recent made me just lose it and something in me just broke)

And then he wants to tell me how ďoh, youíre always texting and bothering meĒ thatís because I have all of these questions on why you treat me like this and how he likes to say ďoh, I didnít do anything wrong to you, at least I didnít **** you and then ghostedĒ and how he likes to say that he walks with God and whatever

And Iím here like whenever I do something wrong or make a mistake towards you, I have to take responsibility for it but the minute I say you did this that hurt me, you tell me you didnít do anything wrong. You tell me how you see nothing wrong with what you did and when I call you out on what you do to me, itís an issue. But if the tables were turned, Iíll have to take responsibility so ****ing fast like, and then he blocked me and itís like

How the **** can someone say that they didnít do anything to hurt you. Guys, I canít. My heart is breaking, and it hurts so much that I tried to express that and he refuses to see that, he refuses to see that itís because of what he did and said to me in May.

After all I did was cared about him deeply and be there for him, and tried to understand him. This is what he does?
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Old 07-09-2019, 05:13 AM
 
Location: The cupboard under the sink
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Kiddies, when somebody says something like this to you, run away.
Very fast.

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in May he tells me that he’s a ****ed up person, he just wants to be left alone. He’s a ****ty person,
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Old 07-09-2019, 06:27 AM
 
Location: a primitive state
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Don’t be so codependent! It’s not your job to solve his problems. Hard lesson to learn and a trap many young people fall into. Look after your own emotional health. It’s not tied to fixing him.

Time to make a clean break and find someone who causes less pain.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency
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Old 07-09-2019, 06:33 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Well, he TOLD you he was a ****** person.
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Old 07-09-2019, 06:41 AM
 
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I rarely say this.

I think you should seek counseling, because attaching yourself to someone who clearly was not at all interested in a relationship will probably be a pattern you will repeat until you figure out why you did this.
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Old 07-09-2019, 06:44 AM
 
Location: SC
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Time to pick your self esteem up, dust it off.....and walk away. Walk away...no RUN....while you still can! Do not....I repeat...DO NOT....attempt any further contact with this toxic person!

He has not only told you, but shown you his true colors.

I know it hurts. Cruelty is beyond pain and can leave deep scars. But surely you are an empathetic person and deserve better than what little he brings to the table.

Take care of yourself now, and try to move on.
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Old 07-09-2019, 08:58 AM
 
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He already walked away. He blocked me and I just left it at that. I don’t understand how someone could be so mean my heart is broken again, and I have to again heal just how I tried to in June.

I don’t understand how I could care about someone so much and they care not at all.
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Old 07-09-2019, 09:01 AM
 
Location: SC
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He already walked away. He blocked me and I just left it at that. I donít understand how someone could be so mean my heart is broken again, and I have to again heal just how I tried to in June.

I donít understand how I could care about someone so much and they care not at all.
I am living that life right now. I unfortunately, married this one. Now I am trying to save enough $$ to make my escape.
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Old 07-09-2019, 09:06 AM
 
Location: San Antonio/Houston/Tricity
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Maybe there was just to much Mom in you
and he felt suffocated. All those constant worries about him could be tiresome.
Some men don't want so much care in the relationship. They want to care, not feel cared for. You probably did too much.

Even now, you just can't let go...
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Old 07-09-2019, 09:14 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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He already walked away. He blocked me and I just left it at that. I donít understand how someone could be so mean my heart is broken again, and I have to again heal just how I tried to in June.

I donít understand how I could care about someone so much and they care not at all.
I don't understand how you could willingly walk into this situation when he was so cruel to you up front. That's the question you should be asking the gods and goddesses.
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