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Old 07-11-2019, 09:08 PM
 
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The trip is still on, I had rental car reserved but she wants me to drive her car. And yes I think it is time to Move forward, she actually texted me about where she should be when walking together , I told her side by side holding hands, she agreed.
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Old 07-12-2019, 03:57 AM
 
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No hug or anything? Gotta make some moves, Bro.
Yeah, I agree.

You have to initiate the contact. How do you not reach over and hold her hand at the table when she is talking? How is it you are not escorting her with your arm around her? No hug? Seriously? I have female friends who hug me when we meet and hug me when they leave and you are saying there was no contact?

This is all weird. She is very easy on you for not getting at least a hug from you.

Step up and initiate something or this trip is gonna bomb. Sheesh!

(Insert two people laying side by side on their backs looking at the ceiling. Talking about the ceiling)
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Old 07-12-2019, 06:40 AM
 
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[quote=funymann;55648760]Yeah, I agree.

You have to initiate the contact. How do you not reach over and hold her hand at the table when she is talking? How is it you are not escorting her with your arm around her? No hug? Seriously? I have female friends who hug me when we meet and hug me when they leave and you are saying there was no contact?

This is all weird. She is very easy on you for not getting at least a hug from you.

Step up and initiate something or this trip is gonna bomb. Sheesh!

(Insert two people laying side by side on their backs looking at the ceiling. Talking about the ceiling)[/QUOT


Well when you put it like that..... After texting with her this morning you are right, I guess I'm a little slow in this, as I said I have not dated before.(I met my wife when I was 17 and married at 18, 38 years together)

So I am going to as you say step up and see where this goes. thanks for all your help and advice in seeing what is right in front of me. I will let y'all know how it's goes.
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Old 07-12-2019, 09:09 PM
 
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Well It went really good,I went to her house to pick up some stuff for work and she was as beautiful as ever, I brought her some chocolate cover strawberries and I after I gave her a good hug she stuck to me me like glue. I guess we made up for my lack of initiating the first move. Anyway we said good bye I came home and she texted me saying we are going on a short getaway. I can't believe this is happening. Thanks for the boost of confidence and advice. It's never to late to date.
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Old 07-12-2019, 10:48 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Yeah, I agree.

You have to initiate the contact. How do you not reach over and hold her hand at the table when she is talking? How is it you are not escorting her with your arm around her? No hug? Seriously? I have female friends who hug me when we meet and hug me when they leave and you are saying there was no contact?

This is all weird. She is very easy on you for not getting at least a hug from you.

Step up and initiate something or this trip is gonna bomb. Sheesh!

(Insert two people laying side by side on their backs looking at the ceiling. Talking about the ceiling)
Yeah, he needs to make moves now, so they’re chances of ending up using only one bed and showering together increases

Or else they’ll be watching forensic files on their own bed. Lol.
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Old 07-12-2019, 10:50 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Well It went really good,I went to her house to pick up some stuff for work and she was as beautiful as ever, I brought her some chocolate cover strawberries and I after I gave her a good hug she stuck to me me like glue. I guess we made up for my lack of initiating the first move. Anyway we said good bye I came home and she texted me saying we are going on a short getaway. I can't believe this is happening. Thanks for the boost of confidence and advice. It's never to late to date.
Go for kiss 💋 next time you hug.
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Old 07-12-2019, 10:56 PM
 
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I am tomorrow, looking forward to it!
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Old 07-13-2019, 12:23 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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I am tomorrow, looking forward to it!
May the force be with you!
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Old 07-13-2019, 07:03 AM
 
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I am tomorrow, looking forward to it!
It’s the most nervous thing when you don’t wanna screw it up but she’s been waiting.
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Old 07-13-2019, 08:23 AM
 
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I am floored that you two are sharing a room. How did that even come up?

Do you feel at all interested in her? Would you want something to develop?

I have seen this happen before with widowers. Those women can be very aggressive, and before you know it she will be assuming all kinds of things about the two of you if you don't make your feelings clear and known.

Please do keep us posted!

I still want to hear how it was decided to share a room for 6 nights? Excuse me, the OP is new back to dating and it's too soon to take a trip together at this stage of dating, although the trip is not until September. Still, I find it weird a shared room trip for 6 nights has been planned, yet they have not developed an intimate romance. Since the room has two beds, has romantic intention been discussed? He may be expecting sex, she may not be. OP needs to communicate with her.


I'll take a wild guess that the OP needs to brush up on his dating skills and learn how to lead a relationship. A classic dating mistake a guy like him new back to dating will make is trying to please her too much. Which is approval seeking anti-masculine behavior. He already has backed out of wanting to use a rental car, when she wanted to use her car. Sounds like no big deal, but she's taking the lead on this trip detail, but isn't it his trip?


There's a lot these two don't know about each other. Which doesn't matter if your just fwb. But to be stuck together for 6 nights should be for a couple that know each other very well. They are far from that. Each side has expectations about what will happen and if they are slightly different can cause a problem.
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