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Old Yesterday, 07:39 AM
 
Location: Tucson/Nogales
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Originally Posted by Mae Maes Garden View Post
I never dated guys who were always late......I made an exit pretty quickly in fact....
Our culture is to blame for that! In a good part of Latin America, punctuality is ignored. I have lived with a Mexican roommate for 20 years and I'd be shocked silly if punctuality ever entered his life. "I'm going to Mexico, I'll be back in 3 weeks!" So now I double or triple the time and it comes out quite accurate. Last time: 2 months!

Oscar Wilde: Punctuality is the thief of all time!

Relax! Relax! Relax! What's wrong with saying: We'll get there when we get there!

I actually enjoy people who come here for dinner who are not punctual. It gives me more time to be on the Internet! And if they don't come at all, no biggie!

 
Old Yesterday, 07:40 AM
 
Location: PA
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I am a very early person. I am rarely late to anything. My fiancť is on time to work, but for social events it is like pulling teeth to get him out the door. Well actually, he gets out the door on time when it is his own plans. Things that I or the kids want to do, he takes his sweet time.

I have stated he doesnít have to go, but if he never chooses to do things with us, I donít see the point of him being in our lives. I have tried a few tactics with him, with no suck luck. I have left without him. I have tried nagging him with the time. We have sat in the car, honking the horn.

What is the best way to deal without someone that causes everyone to be late?


Right now I am supposed to meet my parents and son for dinner in 45 minutes. He is in the bathroom watching YouTube videos. I have to stop at their house and pick up something and have a 45-60 minute drive to even get to the restaurant.

He is always forcing me to drive like a nut to get somewhere on time.
This is easy. Tell him.when you expect him to be ready and leave without a word when the time comes. No horn blowing in the driveway like country hillbillies, just leave. If things don't change after a time or two quit asking. It is clear he is not interested in attending these events, even if he says he is. He is just trying to pacify you. As others have told you many times it is time to find another boyfriend.
 
Old Yesterday, 07:43 AM
 
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OP. Your fiance? Teach him a lesson by not showing up to the wedding.
 
Old Yesterday, 07:55 AM
 
Location: Virginia
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Originally Posted by FortRock View Post
OP. Your fiance? Teach him a lesson by not showing up to the wedding.
What wedding? There's never going to be a wedding with this or any other guy.
 
Old Yesterday, 11:27 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth View Post
Who watches youtube in the bathroom. That is strange.
I am surprised you ask this. A lot of guys need entertainment on the loo and like to sit in their stink up to half an hour.
 
Old Yesterday, 05:01 PM
 
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I didn't read her statement that way. I think she told him he doesn't have to go, but then subsequently, she's been questioning what the point is in having him around, if he's not going to participate in family activities and get-togethers.

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You are correct. I just donít see the point of him, if he doesnít do things with us and around the house.

I canít just change the locks. He has to leave on his own or I need a court order. Frankly, I only have money and energy to deal with one court case at a time and my sons father is using that up, yet again. I do remind him often that he isnít here for his good looks and he needs to make it worthwhile for me to deal with him.
 
Old Yesterday, 05:04 PM
 
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Originally Posted by tijlover View Post
Our culture is to blame for that! In a good part of Latin America, punctuality is ignored. I have lived with a Mexican roommate for 20 years and I'd be shocked silly if punctuality ever entered his life. "I'm going to Mexico, I'll be back in 3 weeks!" So now I double or triple the time and it comes out quite accurate. Last time: 2 months!

Oscar Wilde: Punctuality is the thief of all time!

Relax! Relax! Relax! What's wrong with saying: We'll get there when we get there!

I actually enjoy people who come here for dinner who are not punctual. It gives me more time to be on the Internet! And if they don't come at all, no biggie!
I am a very type a, control freak with diagnosed ocpd. We donít go with the flow or relax.
 
Old Yesterday, 05:26 PM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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Welp. That's the dude you chose. He's shown you several times who he is so.......
 
Old Yesterday, 05:48 PM
 
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Maybe you should trade bf in for one of those "nerds" you're always hating on.
 
Old Yesterday, 07:21 PM
 
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Originally Posted by PardonTheInterruption View Post
Maybe you should trade bf in for one of those "nerds" you're always hating on.
"Nerds" tend to be intelligent and stable, can hold down a job and handle responsibility. Usually drama-free.

Some women find this boring and prefer losers. Like attracts like.
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