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Old 07-10-2019, 09:54 AM
 
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Speaking strictly for myself here, but when it comes to work and stress, I think there is always room for sex no matter how bad my day was. Well, lets just say, for argument's sake, 9 times out of 10 it wouldn't matter.

My guess is that there might be some other distractions involved from him not actually "feeling it" attraction-wise, to... i dont know, not being 100% healthy? Cause that could definitely put a drag on sex drive for most people as well.
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Old 07-10-2019, 09:58 AM
 
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Ohh okay I can see how I made it confusing. Its been an issue but I meant as in 24 hours after posting on here he decides that he is up for it which is sort of convenient. I’ve been dealing but I came to the forum for MORE suggestions/opinions on how to deal with the rejection & then BOOM 24hrs later Lol and nothing dramatically has changed during the month
Well the main thing will be to see if his interest continues on a regular basis. Is there any way he read your post? Does he visit C-D? Could be just a coincidence of course.
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Old 07-10-2019, 09:59 AM
 
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I wouldn't say the update was more of a “Never-mind” its more of an “it seems very suspicious but I may be over thinking it .. this is whats happening I appreciate your opinions/suggestions”

Last edited by ari21; 07-10-2019 at 10:13 AM..
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Old 07-10-2019, 10:03 AM
 
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Ari, for what it's worth, I was ALWAYS more horny than any of the guys I was with, except 1. I don't think it's so unusual for the woman to be more hot for it than the men.
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Old 07-10-2019, 10:04 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I wouldn't say the update was more of a “Never-mind” its more of an “I know it seems very suspicious but this is whats happening Thanks for your opinions/suggestions”
I get it.

I just wouldn't think that everything is resolved because he initiated sex one day.

It sounds like you two still have a lot to figure out, mainly if this is who he is and if this is who you are and if you both can live with this apparent difference or not.

We have no way of knowing if you're being super annoying an all over him all the time for sex, or if there really is a problem that he doesn't want to open up about.

Or if he has preferences he wont talk about. That kind of thing.
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Old 07-10-2019, 10:13 AM
 
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Hiii you guys heres the situation. me & my boyfriend have been together for a year and within the year when it comes to sex or any sexual type activities I am the initiater. we dont usually have sex often because of work so its like once MAYBE (I cant stress this enough) twice every other weekend. But for the past month everytime I suggest sex hes to stressed, tired from work or just doesnt feel like it. Weve talked about why he feels the way he feels and I understand.. I also understand I cant force him into it or nag him about it because it would make matters worse. My question is how can I deal with being rejected moving forward in the relationship? It kind of bruised my ego and I dont want to have resentment when he does decide hes in the mood any helpful suggestions?
It just means that he's not that into you... sexually. Don't take it the wrong way, because he is still with you which means you have something else you are offering.
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Old 07-10-2019, 10:15 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Ohh okay I can see how I made it confusing. Its been an issue but I meant as in 24 hours after posting on here he decides that he is up for it which is sort of convenient. I’ve been dealing but I came to the forum for MORE suggestions/opinions on how to deal with the rejection & then BOOM 24hrs later Lol and nothing dramatically has changed during the month
Well, I'm still wondering about his excuse for suddenly doing a 180-degree turn-around. He said "it" makes him want you more. What "it"? He does seem to be withholding information about the whole thing.

Good communication is the cornerstone of every strong relationship, OP. It looks like your relationship is missing a cornerstone.
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Old 07-10-2019, 10:31 AM
 
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Well, I'm still wondering about his excuse for suddenly doing a 180-degree turn-around. He said "it" makes him want you more. What "it"? He does seem to be withholding information about the whole thing.

Good communication is the cornerstone of every strong relationship, OP. It looks like your relationship is missing a cornerstone.

I think she meant that 'it' was; going without for nearly a month, made him horny now. Which, IMO WOULD be kind of suspicious.
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Old 07-10-2019, 10:35 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I think she meant that 'it' was; going without for nearly a month, made him horny now. Which, IMO WOULD be kind of suspicious.
Right. He's just feeding her lines. I wonder if he was involved with someone at work for awhile.
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Old 07-10-2019, 02:41 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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Ive done warehouse work on a temp basis. Key work there, TEMP. It can be exhausting, especially if he is picking. Pickers can sometime walk 12 miles a day and that is not even with the weight of carrying products. That will drain you, yes even a healthy 24 year old guy.
Ah, come on! Nothing but excuses. My whole area I live in works 12 hours/day on the fields, they live with 20+ people in tiny houses and still find the time to make 6-9 babies.
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